To think my friend is being passive aggressive?!

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My friend had her child christened yesterday. When she set the date, I already had tickets to go somewhere else but let her know that I'd come until I needed to go to the pre-booked event. Turned up, sat through the church ceremony, but the ticketed event I was going to started earlier than I originally knew when I RSVP'd, so I couldn't go to the christening "after party".

I sent a card and put some money in for the child's bank account.

I've had no thank you for the card or money (which is fine, it was only 24 hours ago) but she's now put up a Facebook status thanking everyone for coming and has tagged EVERYONE else apart from me and another friend who also had to leave after the church service.

AIBU to think that this is quite rude of her?

Very rude!

Shrug it off though she’s clearly mental.

Rude cow!!

Surely the church ceremony is the important bit - unless the christening is just an excuse for a piss-up, as it seems to be quite often. You were in attendance for the important part and you generously gave a gift. You're not the unreasonable one.

That’s pretty rude!

yeah that's really odd, rude and passive aggressive. I'd be tempted to reply saying how much you enjoyed the service, like you hadn't even noticed she'd missed you out

I'd be tempted to reply saying how much you enjoyed the service, like you hadn't even noticed she'd missed you out

This.

There's no chance she thinks you missed the whole thing is there?

Yep rude and childish

Definitely comment

Just comment ‘Thanks. The Christening was lovely. Hope you didn’t mind cash in the card I just thought you get so many trinkets.’ Act as if you think it was an oversight.

Be PA back. “Ahh you’re welcome! Really lovely service and great to be a part of the day. Spend the money on something lovely for her”.

yes I’m petty lol!

She would have had nothing from me if that's her attitude.

Don't do anything for her again.

Rude.

I love LucieMorningstar's response! It's perfect, write that!