Annoyed at MIL announcing my pregnancy

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So this is our second child, and we told both sets of parents at around 6 weeks but asked them to keep quiet until after 12 week scan just to be sure everything is ok.

My parents have kept true to their word, and my brother, sisters or aunties and uncles etc know.

However, straight away I had messages from DPs sister, aunt and nanny congratulating me. I was slightly pissed off but said nothing as obviously MIL was excited.

I am 12 weeks today, but scan isn't until later on in the week so I still haven't announced, but DPs little cousin (9yo) came to me today chatting about the new baby. It turns out he was told 2 weeks ago! I'm really annoyed that MIL has told him, as (God forbid) anything is wrong, we'll have to tell him. Plus the fact that none of my relations have been told.

I just feel it wasn't MILs business to tell the whole world. Maybe I'm a bundle of emotions at the moment, but would you be annoyed at this?

this happened to my daughter with slightly different circumstances. it made it easier working out the order to tell people that baby had arrived as they decided that the person who couldn't hold the secret would be the last on the list in case they told the rest of the family before her...

YANBU to be annoyed.
I really would say to them - or better still get DP to say to them - just calmly - "We'll know not to tell you anything we don't want spread about again. We are disappointed, when we specifically asked you not to tell anyone else until after the 12 week scan, that you then went and told people".

Saying you are 'disappointed' is always more effective than getting cross.

FFS don't tell her your due date.

Add 2-3 weeks on. Otherwise....

YANBU but don't tell them the news so early. If it's between you and your DH only then there is no issue and ou announce it in your time and way.

I know everyone is right that technically there's nothing you can do but I'd stew about this i'm afraid.

My vengence reaction would be to not reveal gender or name ideas to her at all and then be deliberately vague about the due date.

Yanbu. People did this to me, I didn't tell them until I was ready for the whole world to know the next time.

This happened to me except it was my nan who told everyone. I was furious. I was incredibly anxious about losing the baby during my first trimester and didn’t really want to be discussing my pregnancy with my uncle’s ex wife. If we have another, she won’t be told until way after my 12 week scan which is a shame as I’m incredibly close to my Nan but she’s too loose lipped.

Oh yes, the old "disappointed" talk always makes people feel awful! I hated it as a child!

We are all very close, I'll not be causing any major fall-outs over it. You are all right, it has made me think twice about what we will share with them as I can't trust at all to keep a secret. It's a shame, but there you go, you live and you learn

Thank you everyone, I thought I may have been a little precious!