2beesornot2beesthatisthehoney ·
01/12/2018 20:43
Sorry just need to rant about my CF brother —who is also a git but that’s a longer story—
We do do lists in our family. . Ours tend to be general (if asked for) and not specific. But I haven’t even done one yet.
A week ago or so my parents asked. Us all for our ideas / requests which kicked off the annual response from my CF B which was:
- expensive stuff for him ( which took 3 emails to specify)
*wife specified 2 specific shops otherwise “don’t bother”
- suggestions for teenage sons which are generally stuff they should be funding ( and they haven’t said thank you for anything we have bought them for years anyhow)
Having fallen out with him somewhat anyway recently, I decided to send a civil short email. suggesting we just exchange cards this year. Note they live hours from us, we hardly ever see them, not going to be seeing them over Xmas. Haven’t seen them for more than a year
I received a reply back with PA response telling me they had purchased our presents ages ago anyhow and that they always get things in early.
Ie subtext.: I want specific expensive stuff but we have already got you something and by the way, you are not very organised.
I am reallypissed off with his gimme attitude and am just going to ignore his reply. Ghosting is best I feel. AIBU? He may bring our present to my parents but we are visiting them before that and he never posts it, last year the hamper arrived long some after things were edible (given months later) Same again this year I expect.
Alternatively I could PA suggest that they just eat it themselves to save it going off.
AIBU to think if you insist on lists then msybe it’s nice to reciprocate? (Him)
AIBU that lists should be not so specific that it means spending a certain amount.(him)
AIBU that saying get me this or “ don’t bother “ just ruins the spirit of Xmas. (Her)
AIBU that teenage boys are old enough to say thank you. (Them)
Grrr.