Re lodger and cleaning

[lastqueenofscotland]

Arg I’ve got a new lodger. Very nice person, but a right mucky mare. I’m finding all I’m doing with my spare time now is cleaning. Ie she leaves washing up for days and days and days, every time she uses the bathroom there is hair EVERYWHERE, and I’m not sure what products she is using but it dies the grouting pink in a matter of days so I have to clean that.
She leaves stuff that can just go in the bin lying about (inc a pizza box)
I’ve just got back to find she’s opened an ASOS delivery and just left the wrapping on the floor in the living room
She keeps her room nice (leaves the door open I don’t snoop) and washes her bedding every 2/3 days! So she isn’t averse to cleaning.
AIBU to tell her to pick up after herself or I’ll have to get a cleaner and charge the cost to her. I like to keep a very clean home and it’s stressing me out.

Frank conversation required. No guilt.

Bag the rubbish up knock on her door and hand it too her.
Tell her that there is now a rota for cleaning the bathroom and if she can't wash up she needs to buy her own plate and cups...

I was a lead on a house share and had a list of "rules that were handed out at interview which included keeping the place tidy and cleaning communal spaces.

You need to have a word and if it doesn't change then give her notice. If its easier put it in a list for her to read. It's basic politeness to not leave washing up etc.

*I gave my lodger a list of rules to follow when they moved in.

I hope you showed them before they moved in so they could make an informed choice on whether to move in or not.*

yes I did

You have rights to go in her room any time you wish.

Really?

Yes she is a lodger, rules are different

Agree, if she leaves stuff around and it gets in your way, leave it on her bed if the door is open, or just in front of her door.
And I have a lodger (who more often is dumping stuff on me...)

If she's asleep? If she's getting changed? On the phone?

StealthPolarBear well obviously you knock first