Feeling guilty

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My DGM (mothers side) passed away a couple of weeks ago. It was unexpected and sudden and we are all trying to be strong and there for each other....

The funeral is coming up soon and as I have a young DS I'm trying to find alternative care for him so I can attend. It's not his usual nursery day, no other family to help that aren't already attending the funeral, friends are working and his dad is useless and says there's no way he can get out of work.

Luckily his nursery has space to take him, but I can't afford to pay for the extra day - my DM offered to pay for it which I greatly appreciate but I feel terrible about it! I feel like she has enough on her plate and doesn't need the trouble of sorting out my child added to her list of problems is my head just a mess or am I right to feel guilty and useless and selfish...?

Take the offer. She obviously wants you there and knows you missing the day will always be a regret. For the sake of £50/£60/£70 it's not a day you should miss and she clearly knows that

Don't feel guilty OP. You DM wants and needs you there, and understands that you are on a tight budget with a young child. This is about a loving family being there for each other, no need to feel bad.

Accept the offer. You could always save a few pounds a week and pay her back if you wanted to. Sorry about your DGM

She needs you there with her. She can afford it. Be there for her and you. My condolences x