Is unreasonable to buy children clothes ( things they need for birthday )

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DD who will be 5 a week after Christmas is very girlie and growing so in need of new shoes / pyjamas etc

She has a bloody unicorn cycle and lots of other toys and crap for Xmas.

She has a junior piano, piano lessons and Disney on ice tickets for her birthday
So I didn’t want to buy more toys for the sake of it so I moved her playmobil over from Xmas to birthday and bought her
Dressing gown, pyjamas, a few bits of clothes, boots ( one she chose ) new hat and scarf set, slippers etc basically practical things.
Her dad is mortified ( despite barely contributing anything ) that just because her birthday is close to Xmas she gets clothes 🙈

My dd's are now 11+13 but clothes shopping trips +cafe /cake have always gone down well!! Can you take dd and tell her you are sending them to Santa to wrap? Honestly it's a great way to keep teens willing to be seen out with you (thinking ahead for you op!).

That all seems perfectly reasonable. She's getting a LOT of other stuff too, it's not like she's just getting clothes. Maybe have the dressing gown/pjs for Christmas and the hat/scarf/boots for birthday?

Yes me and DD love a good shopping trip from others we have asked for vouchers instead of toys for birthday so because her Disney on ice isn’t until 4 days after I am going to take her shopping and ice skating on her birthday ( she has new obsession with ice skatinf )
He seems to think a dressing gown and slippers is the worse present for a 5 year old 😂

Yes bridge she is getting a lot ( the Xmas like due to other people which is lovely is huge ) so I had bought her playmobil sets but have moved them over to birthday so it evens it out a bit. The piano is because she is developmental behind by a year and a half ( has Health problems ) but someone managed to lead twinkle twinkle star on the piano already 🤷‍♀️

Somehow managed to learn

Sorry she is taking a nap on top of me and I’m stretching to my phone !

This sounds fine to me. It’s not like just clothes, it’s a good mix and sounds lovely! There’s only so many toys you can have before it’s ott so i think a mix of clothes and experiences etc like you’ve done is nicer?

Mine always get a new dressing gown, pyjamas, slippers & underwear for Christmas. They also get a new duvet cover.

Also if any club requires new kit such as shin pads, football socks, ballet leotard, swim bag etc & the timing is right they'll get it for birthday/christmas.

Can't see a problem personally, my dc all really love their gifts & gets toys as well!

Go for it!

Thanks for confirming I’m not destroying my daughters child hood 😂🤣the dressing gown is lovely and bought things that I know she would like ( she has an obsession with swans and this year they seem to have come in to kids fashion ) ha really handy !

Our dc have always had clothes as part of Christmas presents, and sometimes for birthdays too, even though their birthdays aren't near Christmas.

If they’re nice clothes that she’ll enjoy wearing, then I don’t see there’s a problem.

5 year olds are quite basic and easily pleased IME. My 4.5 year old loves a Paw Patrol onesie.

Saucy jack one of the things I’m hunting for is a Paddington bear onesie she has requested !
I think she will be fine and if he doesn’t agree he can buy her toys !

I always think bday and Xmas presents should be something you would never buy for yourself.

Hmm don't know am on the fence a bit. My stepson gives his ex (my Sdgds /my Dh's DGDs mum) as little money as legally possible and is a tight person in general. I get really annoyed when she turns up at ours in worn out/too small coat or shoes and when we ask what she wants for Christmas/bday he'll say a coat or shoes.If we give her money he will by these for her also.
I just think a parent should clothe their DC anyway, not give them as gifts.

Yes I buy everything during the year she needs etc to.
These are more things like
Swan slippers. Swan dressing gown, tinker bell pyjamas like things that aren’t probably “ needed “ could get plainer versions for much cheaper but know she would like these. :) your post sounds like my ex Ha

I don’t disagree Monkeys- but when you’re 5 you can’t buy anything for yourself.

It’s not like the kid can take herself down to H&M for a new dress whenever she feels like it.

As long as it’s nice treaty stuff (which it sounds like it is) then it’s fine.

Something they want, something they need, something to wear and something to read. It's how we do Xmas and birthdays!

My mother never buys my DC anything but. I’d say I’m grateful for it but she buys them absolute tat I really hate them wearing so .

Children grow so quickly, it makes perfect sense to gift clothing sometimes imo.

I always think bday and Xmas presents should be something you would never buy for yourself.

See, I disagree with this

I've bought my dd dressing gown and slippers for her birthday in a few weeks, she'll be 4. It's a my little pony dressing gown!

Nothing wrong with clothes...

DS was once annoyed at a dressing gown but the mistake there was the giver had gone on about the lovely present and obviously in his mind he'd built it up to something that well... wasn't a dressing gown

But given alongside other gifts and not talked up as though they will open and discover the entire contents of Smyths in the parcel ... clothes are fine!

just wait a few years, and all they'll want for their birthdays are clothes!

we've always got ours clothes/pyjamas/swimming costumes etc and football/dance stuff for birthdays and christmas (among other more fun things).

school uniform might be a bit mean!

My dd has a dressing gown and pjs on her Christmas list. She'll probably get the dressing gown early because she's going in to hospital next week. The elf always brings new pjs before she leaves on Christmas eve.

My Mil will buy me pjs and nice mascara for Christmas like she does every year, they are both things I could buy myself but it still feels like a treat when they come from someone else. My mum gave me money for new running trainers I couldve bought them myself too but having the money from elsewhere helps.

My 2DS have always had some stuff they need and some stuff they want. Works well I think and reduces the focus on "stuff" for the sake of it.

Hahah she does need some new school uniform 😂🤣🤣

Thankyou I have decided to add new pair of ballet and tap shoes.

She will get other things I think basically she would have

3 biggish playmobil sets
3 smallish playmobil sets
A second hand iPod touch ( she is obsessed with music )
Unicorn head phones
Stationary bits ( unicorn pencil case, pens etc )
Vtech supertair microphone
Junior piano
Disney on ice tickets
3 Disney soft dolls
Then pyjamas, clothes, slippers, dressing gown and boots.

I really don’t think she as hard done by as he is making out 😂😂( for the record he has never paid matinence in these 5 years )

Yes OP he is tight and l think the asking for basics is manipulative also as he knows full well we will treat her as well to a 'present' she wants rather than needs. It's not like he's skint either got a really good job and believe me lives very cheaply :D. Am not suggesting you are like that btw and if it's nice stuff that she will be pleased with fine, it's not like you're buying her school shoes like my stepson. I can only object so much or dh gets defensive as it is his son after all but l often say we are not buying DGD a prese t we are just saving him money grrr.