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to canvas views on loo incident?

41 replies

haventkilledtheorchidyet · 30/11/2018 14:20

OK, so this morning I was in our (one) shower when DS (13) announced he needed a poo. DD (15) was in the other toilet doing her makeup. I told DS to go to the other toilet, as I wasn't hugely comfortable with him pooing in my presence, and didn't want to get cold by coming out of the shower half way through. DD refused entry to the other loo on the basis that she would be needing to go back into the room to finish her makeup and it would smell. DH refused to intervene and so I had to allow DS access, although I didn't get out the shower, as I thought that would be worse. Cue huge ruckus.

Was DH being U, or was I?

OP posts:
summersofyesterday · 30/11/2018 14:21

Not another one of these. Hmm

SneakyGremlins · 30/11/2018 14:21

DD was being U.

Don't see why DH needed to get involved Confused

Magmatic80 · 30/11/2018 14:23

Why wasn’t DD doing makeup in her room? She should’ve moved

Nesssie · 30/11/2018 14:23

DD was unreasonable, should have let him in, but DS at 13 should be able to wait to use the toilet!

Your DH was right to not get involved in such a stupid matter.

Musicalstatues · 30/11/2018 14:25

Eh? He’s 13 not 3! Surely he can wait 10 minutes!

Original poster
haventkilledtheorchidyet · 30/11/2018 14:27

he had waited, but needed to get off to school. Mirror and lighting not so good in her room.

OP posts:
EwItsAHooman · 30/11/2018 14:27

DD was BU.

Put a mirror in her room with a decent light beside it, solves future problems like this.

Caprisunorange · 30/11/2018 14:27

Yes he should’ve waited

findurfavouritesorhaveabrowse · 30/11/2018 14:28

This message board needs a whole poo and pee forum so I (and everyone else without a fetish) can hide the topic.

Pursefirst · 30/11/2018 14:29

Christ, I thought DS was 3!!!! At 13, I really think that he could have waited. If not, then DD WBU not to let him use the bathroom she was in.

Onemorewonthurt · 30/11/2018 14:29

Your DS was BU. A shower and doing make up are not massively time consuming tasks. He's 13, far too old to even be announcing it, in future, he waits.

Actually, it's quite strange that you make no reference to having asked him to wait in your OP

TakeAChanseyOnMe · 30/11/2018 14:30

I second your DD doing make up in her bedroom. Keeping it in the bathroom makes it expire faster due to the heat and humidity. That might persuade her as she’d be worried about her eyeshadow palette getting ruined.

Bacciferous · 30/11/2018 14:33

I'd get one of those make-up mirrors with lights round it for Christmas.

Birdie6 · 30/11/2018 14:37

Makeup can be done in a bedroom. DD was U, nobody else. In future I'd make sure that DD has a good mirror and good lighting in her room and she won't have to hog the bathroom.

Rachelle3211 · 30/11/2018 14:50

DD was being unreasonable. If he'd already been holding it and needed to go to school she should have moved.

diddl · 30/11/2018 14:50

Couldn't your daughter have brought her stuff into you?

So two toilets & he couldn't get to either??!!

Of course you shouldn't wait unnecessarily when you need a poo.

Your daughter sounds awful.

Tinty · 30/11/2018 14:50

DD could have moved doing her make up to the room you were in, therefore freeing up the spare toilet for DS.

diddl · 30/11/2018 14:51

And of course your husband should have told her to get out so that your son could use the toilet.

Blanchedupetitpois · 30/11/2018 14:53

as I wasn't hugely comfortable with him pooing in my presence

I think if you were even remotely comfortable with this it would be unbelievably weird. Normal people don’t behave like this.

We definitely need a Toilet board on MN, all the fetishists can hang out in one place.

Snowwontbelong · 30/11/2018 14:53

It shouldn't need both dps to insist your dc do as they are told. Makes you look incapable imo.
Dd needs to get ready in her bedroom.
End of.

nornironrock · 30/11/2018 14:54

Your daughter should have moved. (Do I dare question why make-up at school?)
Your son should have waited.
You should have a lock on your bathroom door and you should have refused him entry.
Your husband sounds very sensible.

gamerchick · 30/11/2018 14:54

I really want to know what some people get out of talking about shit. This is there the AMA topic would come in handy.

DarlingNikita · 30/11/2018 14:54

Eh? He’s 13 not 3! Surely he can wait 10 minutes!

I'm 43 and every so often I have to ask DP to get out of the shower because I need the bathroom for this very purpose. Grin

Sometimes you really just have to go.

And I agree DD should have moved to the room you were in.

Your DH should have weighed in seeing as you were in the shower and thus a) not impartial and b) compromised, and told his DD to move to your bathroom.

diddl · 30/11/2018 14:58

Why should he have to wait when one toilet was free?

GetOffTheTableMabel · 30/11/2018 14:59

Really? A 13 boy would rather poo in the same bathroom as his mother than wait? Or scream at his sister or father to make the other bathroom available? Really? I simply do not believe it.