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Would I be a CF to ask my neighbour this?

37 replies

sally4ever · 30/11/2018 10:21

My DH and I purchased a new house and moved in not too long ago.

At the time we bought the house there as another house up for sale in the street that was the exact same style but was much better decorated. This was reflected in the house prices and ours was significantly cheaper.

I remember looking at the pictures of the more expensive house and loving the kitchen and its layout and design. I’ve checked in rightmove and the house is showing in the recently sold section but the pictures have disappeared!

Anyway, I guess my AIBU is would I be a CF to go round to the other house and explain that I loved their kitchen and would like to do something similar so could I have a look at it at a time that’s convenient to them?

OP posts:
SoupDragon · 30/11/2018 10:23

Has the other house sold? If so, it seems less cheeky.

I've had a neighbour come round shortly after we moved in asking to see how the previous owners had handled the side extension. I was fine with it.

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sally4ever · 30/11/2018 10:24

Yes! Sorry the other house has sold

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AGHHHH · 30/11/2018 10:24

I'd be annoyed if anyone came to my house asking to copy my style! Grin

But maybe that's just me.

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sally4ever · 30/11/2018 10:25

Would more be the layout of the kitchen.

And I wouldn’t be copying their style.

It would be the previous owners Wink

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DartmoorDoughnut · 30/11/2018 10:25

Why don’t you just try and make friends and go from there? Both new to the neighbourhood similar houses so hopefully similar tastes and try not to get the exact same kitchen otherwise it’s a bit single white female

PasDevantLesElephants · 30/11/2018 10:26

Have a quick check on Zoopla, they often archive house listings and so the pictures of the kitchen may still be there.

blackteasplease · 30/11/2018 10:28

I wouldn't be bothered by this at all.

LyndaLaHughes · 30/11/2018 10:31

Just put a note through the door and ask them. Say you have moved in recently and are doing work. You have seen pictures of their house and loved how the space had been used and laid but sadly the pictures are no longer available. Say you would be extremely grateful if they would allow you to have a look or would be happy to share pictures with you but that you completely understand if they weren't comfortable doing this and would take absolutely no offence. Leave your house number and contact details including an email and that way they can send your pictures if they don't want you in the house! That way you don't have any awkward face to face conversations!

Caprisunorange · 30/11/2018 10:34

Agree with zoopla the archived photos will be on there. Just google the address and it should come up

Returnofthesmileybar · 30/11/2018 10:41

Ask, i'd be flattered

ErickBroch · 30/11/2018 10:43

I'd be flattered and I am planning to do the same thing when I move next year as the other houses on the street have all opened up their kitchens!

EmeraldShamrock · 30/11/2018 10:50

I would leave a note and number to ask. I wouldn't knock and ask.

onthenaughtystepagain · 30/11/2018 10:55

If you look on Rightmove in the Houses Sold section the pictures are often still there.

MirandaGoshawk · 30/11/2018 10:56

Just after we'd moved in I got friendly with another dog walker. When he found out where I lived he said he'd been interested in my house when it was on the market but hadn't actually been to have a look round, and could he come and see it? I was pleased to make a friend and he came round for tea and a nosy. So, not a problem - depends on your attitude. If you are full of admiration for their kitchen I'm sure they'd be pleased to meet you.

DishingOutDone · 30/11/2018 10:58

My elderly neighbour had a key to my house which was kind of her but I had to remove it after she let her daughter in to have a look round. Apparently she wanted to see the layout of the house. Elderly neighbour does not have a spare key any more! That was CF but what you are suggesting sounds reasonable.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 30/11/2018 10:59

Ask - they might hoik the kitchen out before they settle in Grin

Miljah · 30/11/2018 11:17

I'd be flattered.

Ginkythefangedhellpigofdoom · 30/11/2018 11:21

Well Iv knocked on someone's door to tell them how much Iv liked their garden and asked if they wouldn't mind telling me what a particular plants name was.

The woman who answered was thrilled, she said she had worked really hard on it and it was nice to hear that someone liked it and then told me she would give me a cutting.

I still can't remember the name of the plant Blush

BarbaraRoyale · 30/11/2018 11:24

I wouldn't mind at all

allthgoodusernamesaretaken · 30/11/2018 11:26

I would put a note through the door to ask. I'd be flattered, but others might not like it

CookPassBabtridge · 30/11/2018 11:32

Yeah check zoopla, the old photos are usually there!

firawla · 30/11/2018 11:34

I’d be fine with it

UpToonGirl · 30/11/2018 11:35

Don't knock on the door and ask, that puts them on the spot! I would be happy if I was them but would want some notice so I could clean/tidy up first - pop a note through the door. Worst that happens is they ignore it.

lokijet · 30/11/2018 11:38

if current owners are the ones selling Im sure they wouldn't mind - its a compliment to their taste and style

Bitsandboobs · 30/11/2018 11:40

I did something similar when we moved in, wanted to see how an actic conversion would work in our house so went and knocked on a house a few doors up that had one. Turns out the woman was a newly sahm to 4 week old twins, she ushered me in with very welcome arms, thrust a baby into one hand and a cuppa into the other and we've been best friends ever since!!

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