To be irritated

[ilovepuppys]

One of my close friends messaged me saying ' we need to go on holiday soon! '

She knows I have terrible Anxiety and hate flying and get awful panic attacks when I leave my home city. ( this all stemmed from my mum passing away and a near death experience for me in the last 5 years )

I replied saying ( haha yeah well I doubt I'll be able to go travelling at the mo, not really in to it )

She replied saying I need to get over my ridiculous fear, that I fact I love travelling just not the aspect of getting on a plane?! And that its ' way safer than a car ' and she says I need to realise I'm being silly and will be fine as soon as I'm on the plane. Ummmmm what am I supposed to think of this?

Btw did say it was a nice idea but maybe closer to home?? Etc UK

Well, I do not know. What is the friend like when it comes to other things. It does not sound very thoughtful but I guess some people do not get anxiety very well. I am with a guy who has ptsd, sometimes difficult to understand for the outsider.

@ConfusedWife1234
She says she has bad anxiety herself but can't seem to ever understand why I have panic attacks etc and tells me it's all in my head and not to think a certain way?

She's a sweet person and means well sometimes but Is very opinionated and can speak without thinking how it can impact others.

It just annoyed me because I've known her for 11 years and she's seen the issues I've been faced over the years yet still can't seem to understand why I ' act this way '

Well, I think it is sometimes hard to understand. Maybe you can tell her that she might not understand and it is difficult to understand for the outsider but this is how you feel and ask her to please respect it. In a friendly way.

@ConfusedWife1234 thanks, good idea I'll take up that advice!

I'll probably be met with ' well if you did so and so it would be fine and you'd not feel anxious.... '

Ah those precious people who don’t have an anxiety disorder but claim they do because it’s convenient and trendy to label everything as anxiety and then completely fail to understand true anxiety and it’s symptoms in the most basic ways...

Thing is she gets very anxious about things, apparently.

@Angharad07

She has a melt down if her other half is out after work with his friends. Or if she has too much uni work to do ( she's in the last year of uni )

Another one is having anxiety as her parents are not funding her annual buss pass anymore.

She will message me saying she has ' extreme anxiety ' on a particular day and come out with these issues she is having and how she wishes she didn't have such bad anxiety and wants to be ' sectioned '

It's just her anxiety is slightly different to mine. As in she doesn't understand why anxiety makes me not leave the house for a week, or manage to go on long trips out of the city.
Even answering the door to the postman can be a struggle and the same goes for loud noises and so many more things.

She thinks I'm just being ' ridiculous '

As ' there is nothing to be anxious about, in any of those situations '