To ask if you talk about health problems a family member has?

[ConfusedWife1234]

Did you ever discuss health problems a family member has with others. For example when the family member could not attend an event? No I am not going to discuss this with other without my family members permission. I am just interested what others do.

Well, it depends on the health problem and people involved. My mother having surgery for her shoulder? Yes, I mention it when someone asks how my mum's doing. BIL signed off work with a suicidal breakdown? No, I won't mention that to random people, not knowing who he'd want to know about it.

Depends who the others are and whether they are aware of issues or not or whether the familt member has said send my apologies and let then know why I can't come.

What have you said when the familymember could not and you did not want to discuss his or her health?

It isn't for me to discuss, did you see the beautiful daffodils, blue sky on your way. I say, let me get you a drink and introduce you to flobber. Flobber's going to Mauritious for his hols, where are you goibg?

What have you said when the familymember could not and you did not want to discuss his or her health?

In some cases you can be honest but vague: "He's not well today" or similar. If that leads to nosey questions, you can say you're not sure of any details, or just try to be vague and change the subject as fast as you can.

Or you don't need to explain. "He couldn't make it". Follow with same vagueness and change of subject.

Ideally of course, if it's an ongoing health issue that people are likely to ask you about, ask the ill person what they'd prefer.

Depends...
Dh mental health absolutely. He is comfortable with it.
Df's cancer - generally yes specifics no...not everyone is up to speed with how serious it is.
Dm's cancer - never because she doesn't want anyone to know.

I wouldn't discuss it.

My partner was taken to hospital by ambulance twice in the space of a few weeks this year. Everyone in the street was asking for him and trying to get details from me but i didnt say anything as it was none of their business and wouldnt tell anyone without his permission. He started telling a few people which was fine but since then some of the old ladies have been trying to feed me gossip about others in the street, really bloody annoys me. I can guarantee they would be talking about us, get a bloody life!

Whe it comes to me being a carer i do get support from family or work when needed which means i do need to go into detail but this is always with highest confidentiality

@Badlyagedmemes Yes, I am talking about ongoing healthissues.