I know this isn’t a massive issue in the grand scheme of things but would be interested in hearing how others would react.
Back story....I initiated divorce with exH several years ago. I simply didn’t love him anymore even though he was essentially a good man and husband. He was gutted. He became awful over money and it was a tough couple of years. As the years have gone on we have little contact except regarding the kids who are now older teens. They live with me and he is still tight but there you go. On the rare occasions we have met over the years I normally get some sort of patronising comment about being dizzy, or having a mid life crisis, despite now earning twice what he does etc. I have posted about this in the past but things had seemed to improve.
Last week he came into my house, this is extremely rare but he was picking up our son and arrangements changed so he came to the house.
A day later I get a text saying ‘so now you are Miss x eh, ha ha ha’. It took me aback...I changed back to my maiden name over a year ago several years after we divorced (just didn’t get round to it straight after we split). I asked why he had text this and he said he noticed it on a letter when he picked our son up that was on the side. As I mentioned above, it is extremely rare for him ever to set foot in my house, it is not as though we are mates and drop by each other’s! I text back asking why he was actually asking me about this and he said that he just thought I still had his name and how he had always ‘not minded’ if I had kept it. I have ignored him.
I know this isn’t a major issue but it really pisses me off how he actually bothered to take the time to contact me about this and put ‘ha ha ha’. I feel like telling him to fuck off but have always kept my mouth shut for the kids. I just feel like he will be like this at intervals during my life because I left him and I’m sick of it. And also, it makes me particularly uncomfortable because we split over TEN years ago.