To be pissed off that my bf doesn't ever take photos of us.

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Was looking through my boyfriends Facebook profile pictures earlier looking for a particular photo. Realised he has fourteen profile pictures of him and his ex - yes I counted.
All fair enough, everyone has a history, however I find it really odd and a bit hurtful that he doesn't even have fourteen pictures of us together. On his phone even. Nevermind fourteen profile pictures. Obviously there are loads more of the two of them together all over Facebook too and it just kind of struck me as kind off odd that clearly they took hundreds off photos together and from what I can see all posted by him when he literally has never asked for me to take a photo with him the entire relationship (ok maybe he has once or twice but generally when I look like shit and have just woken up certainly not all the cute caption type crap he posted with his ex!) But to say I can count on one hand the amount of photos we have together of us is no exaggeration and seems in sharp contrast to his previous relationship where every chance he gets seems to be a photo op and there's usually some kind of lovestruck caption proclaiming her beauty or whatever along side it.
Aibu (and childish) to feel a bit fucked off by this?

Difficult one. Could be that’s he’s matured and doesn’t feel it’s necessary. Does he profile link to yours as in relationship wise or could he appear single still (on social media)?
I see why you are bothered but don’t overthink it for now. X

No his profile is linked to mine and he's definitely not pretending he's single (at least I hope not ) he'll post pictures of our baby and stuff. I guess the upset is two fold. Firstly that he never takes photos of us to begin with and secondly I cannot imagine him then posting those pictures professing his love and adoration for me in a public setting anyway. It's not even really like I want him to. I use Facebook pretty sparingly myself. But I've always been that way. It's just clearly this is how he did use Facebook when in a relationship. And more than that, he thought those photos worth taking to begin with. Just not with me.

People’s relationship with social media changes over time - I’ve definitely gone through the phase of posting pictures and regularly changing profile pictures and now I haven’t even logged into Facebook all year.

If he regularly posts and takes pictures and just avoids anything related to you then I’d ask questions - if he doesn’t interact much then I wouldn’t care.

He's sort of in between. He puts stuff on semi regularly. Often memories though and crap like that. But rarely referencing me I suppose. He doesn't put photos on all the time at all but probably one a month (usually of the baby - which I guess is fairly normal when you have a new baby)

Have you spoken to him about it OP?

Yes. Which hasn't made me feel any better at all. His explanations range from: "She used to make me post stuff cos she was mental and insecure" to "I don't really use Facebook like that now" to "you never want your photo taken anyway" (The latter may be true but who the fuck wants their photo taken when they're still in bed). Ex girlfriend is fully made up in all pictures so clearly he was capable of waiting for the right moment at one point!