To ask about balls? **TITLE EDITED BY MNHQ AT OP'S REQUEST**

[Bigballa]

DH and I recently found out that he has a testicular tumor. Things have quickly gone pear shaped, literally his ball is the size and shape of a pear.

He seems to be going ok but he is in a lot of pain right from his abdomen down through his legs. The problem is that he is stubborn as a mule and won't allow me to help him.

It took 20 minutes last night to convince him to let me buy him new underwear because his boxers don't provide any support and the seams cause rubbing issues.

Anyone who has had a loved one deal with a testicular tumor or had a testicle removed, or has lost a testicle themselves, could you please share your tips and tricks for being as comfortable as possible. What underwear helped most, what seats were most comfortable, any jerry rigged sling ideas? I'm open to all suggestions.

Thank you

Tighty whiteys or cycling shorts worked for my ex. He also had a 'box' for sport that helped but your poor dh seems to have a bigger problem so that might be too tight. Has he tried two pairs of the jersey ones or a pair of silk boxers under a tighter pair to help with seams and chafing? I also had to drape ex with cooling cloths or those pads for headaches at night - or kept in the fridge Vaseline then the cycling shorts. It might sound daft but a sock popped in to make the other one larger can help with seams etc because the clothes aren't distended one way - but can look a bit alarming....

He found the sofa best and couldn't cope with something that prevented manspreading so no arms helps.

He has done really well post op, got a wee fake one put in - put up with lots of jokes from pals but it was worth the op and no impact on the old libido - he's got a couple of kids now too!

Please tell your DH to get some pain relief and speak to the doctor if he can bear to - and I hope he feels less pain soon. Hope you are ok too.

Thank you, managed to get him to start on pain killers yesterday. Mentally he's doing ok (we've both had a bit of a cry but he's staying positive, asked me the other day if they'd let me keep it in my handbag).

Glad he's getting some pain meds. And I know it is really hard mentally for both of you - obviously worried about pain, tumour, op and being 'normal' after.
You sound amazing OP and looking after him so well - but look after yourself too!
All I can say is that it took a few months for my ex because his confidence was shot, but he did get back his mojo and his health has stayed good. It's one where outcomes are good if caught early but when you are in the middle of it it's just scary and bloody awful.
I really feel for you both and I wish you all the best luck in the world!💐🤞🏻

Is he having it removed?

My DP had his removed less than 7 days after initially seeing the gp. Was later confirmed to be testicular cancer.

It has something like a 95% survival rate so (to quote his oncologist) if you're gonna get cancer it's the best one to have'.

It's a scary time OP but I cannot fault the nhs in my dps care.

He wore fairly restrictive trunk shorts before and after surgery btw.

Yes it will be removed in two weeks. We're not in the UK so not under the NHS. And he has one of the best surgeons in the country performing the op.

Hi OP, just nipping on here to let you know we've edited your title, as requested, so it makes more sense.

to you and DH too.