I guess I want opinions from some parents - I am early twenties with no kids.
My DP is a Maths teacher and tutors on the side for extra money. He often overstays after each lesson around 10-15 mins which he says is to give a debrief. He teaches many different students on a regular weekly basis varying from aged 10 - 16.
I know all the places he goes are legitimate and see all the messages/addresses of the places and the money in our account.
However, this one mum is apparently 41 (my bf is 29) but he has said she is 'good looking for her age' as a few other mums are. This mum is married with 2 children, he teaches the son. The dad is the one who initially hired him through official tutoring channels. But he is always at work whilst my DP is there so is always speaking to the mum.
He always overstays by 20 mins minimum, chatting about their holidays, animals, etc. I assume the child is still present but I don't know much. She always texts him very randomly, usually all related to the child like 'look he did it this time!' and sometimes saying she can finally understand it. All innocent it seems. But one time she said how her son "is getting better at descriptions, I asked him to describe what mummy is wearing before she goes out and he said how nice I looked". The messages are somewhat professional but very chatty style, not formal as with his other parents.
Because he stays late, he usually tends to finish later around 7 with a half hour drive home which is against the timings we have in place for other things such as picking me up from work (630pm - I pay petrol for this and also was part of our agreement when we decided to live where we do - closer to his work, more difficult to access mine).
So I guess, what I'm saying is, as a parent, would you speak to a tutor like this? would you or have you spent 20/30mins chatting after a 2 hour session?
I've tried saying he needs to stop overstaying due to the time issues it causes but he point blank refuses which makes this more tense.
For what it's worth, I've had a tutor in the past who worked an exact hour and then said his goodbyes promptly, I've also been a tutor and done the debrief but only 10 mins max.