Normal for baby?

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AIBU re panicking?

My baby is 5 weeks old.

I took him in the bath earlier and stupidly when I sat up let a small bit of water get in his mouth. He spluttered a bit and wasn't happy with me (and I'm still suffering from mum guilt and beating myself up over this!).

He's now asleep on me, and has been asleep since 2pm. He never usually sleeps longer than 2 hours. He's been asleep for 5, other than to feed. He's very croaky as just seems exhausted.

I'm coming up with all these scenarios in my head where him inhaling a tiny bit of water is causing his tiredness and is going to end in him being unwell.

I'm completely catastrophising and I'm sick with worry over I'm not sure what...

AIB ridiculous?

Yes YAB ridiculous. (But that's normal with your first baby!)
Swallowing water isn't inhaling it.

@circleoflife he definitely tried to inhale it because he gagged and coughed a lot after and screamed at me.

I'm being stupid aren't I?

You are catastrophising, but don’t beat yourself up, it’s so easy to do when they are this young and you are still in that hormonal post birth phase. I have a 12 week old and I spend my life imagining the ways I might have accidentally harmed him. It’s hard. As they get older, they just seem more robust and you will worry less.

But yes, your baby will be fine! Be kinder to yourself, you sound like you are doing really well

Perhaps the bath relaxed him very much and he's having extra long snoozes this afternoon :)

Bless ya.. yes u are being stupid lol..

Maybe the relaxing bath just knocked baby out..

Is it normal to be this ridiculous after having a baby?

I'm finding it so hard to stay calm...

Yes completely normal.. u find yourself overthinking any lil noise or anything that they do differently.. I assume this is ur first

I really think it’s normal. I mentioned it to the GP at my 6 week check and she seemed unconcerned. You have someone who is now completely dependent on you and all you want to do is your absolute best for them. That’s a lot of pressure!

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I wish I could remember the ridiculousness after having my first- they would give you such a laugh!
I do remember that I couldn’t sleep if he was quite (to make sure he was breathing) but then (obviously) I couldn’t sleep when he was noisy! So I spent all my time awake until my OH took over and made me go to sleep! Mental times those were. I had a lot of other ridiculous times too- thankfully it gets easier (especially with further children- not because you love them less- just because you realise how silly you were/are constantly tired/ understand the hormones more!)

He's not my first. My first was born at 25 weeks but only survived a week. He had an extremely rare genetic condition. We never took him home so didn't experience any of this. He was in NICU his whole life and was only diagnosed after he'd passed.

Our little man is the first baby we have ever taken home though. I'm so panicked over everything.

My friend panicked when she noticed an orange coloured rash on the forehead of her new born, she text friends, Googled it then realised it was wotsit dust!

@Bigonesmallone3 oh wow, that's quite funny...

Will presumably be 6 feet tall tomorrow with all that sleeping. A big sleep, followed by a lot of milk = having a grow

Oh sorry chicken..
Course u are, completely understandable!
I'm sure ur doin a great job

OP, I'm so sorry for your loss. Your anxiety in these circumstances is completely understandable

Absolutely normal. He will be completely fine. Please try not to worry. If it makes you feel better, I once sobbed because I was scared I'd poisoned dd2 when I sprayed deoderant all over my bod after a shower, then went down stairs and bf'd her. I thought tiny particles of deodorant might have clung to my nipple and then she would have swallowed it. Its the hormones.

Yes it is very normal to be over protective and anxious with your first, and especially when your baby is still so young. One month old is still newborn (even though it doesn't feel like it to you anymore because your month old baby seems so much older than the 1, 2, 3 hour old baby he was :) )

You'll gradually chill out as baby gets older and you've been through most common scenarios once or twice and dealt with it just fine.

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[flower] so sorry for your loss OP.

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Firstborn. Panicking over every single tiny thing that you think could be slightly wrong is normal.

Just seen your update. I am so sorry for your loss. You are bound to worry after all you have been through. It is scary enough as it is.

OP I've done the same thing with my 12 week old. She is fine.

I did exactly the same at that age! My OH dunked her thinking it was what we were supposed to do and she cried so much she went purple! I then spent way too long on google and the next few days convinced she was slowly drowning! She's fine!

OP it sounds like post natal anxiety. Very common but you don't have to suffer. Speak to your GP or health visitor ASAP - you will be a top priority for CBT. I had CBT for PNA after both kids (MUCH milder 2nd time!!) A few weeks and you will be sorted xxxxxxx