Sick BIL held and kissed baby.

[Noisetti]

Just that really.

AIBU to be annoyed that my BIL came over, held my 5 week old baby, kissed him all over his face, then started coughing and spluttering, announced that he had a stomach bug and was up all night unwell, and needs to go to the doctors?

I was very calm and took my DS off him saying I didn't want him catching something. Inside I was furious but not sure if this was U or misplaced, so didn't reach.

AIBU to think he was stupid to hold my son?

Dickhead. Surely he's not that thick?

Utterly thoughtless man!

Omg! I'd be fuming!

I think olivia's post means that she is also horrified with your BIL.

Does he have kids?

What a fucking idiot. I’d be livid.

If I'm poorly I won't even see friends for fear of passing on a bug or virus, let alone spreading my germs all over a baby!

YANBI. Utterly thoughtless - I hope your little one is fine and your BIL needs it explaining to him that if he's poorly, to keep it to himself, thanks very much.

Also - I generally thought kissing a baby on the face is a no-no? Herpes virus (like that causes coldsores) etc can be easily spread and awful for a baby. Or am I wrong?

Why were you so polite. All new mums need to make it crystal clear from day 1 that no sick folk are to visit. A bug like that is so serious for a little one.

Oh yes he was an idiot. But this thread has the opportunity to scare monger. Your baby will probably be fine (and if you’re breastfeeding hopefully you’ll be passing on antibodies and keep anything nasty at bay.)

Don’t worry, you couldn’t have prevented it. And it happens. If you had/have a toddler or other children think of all the lovely germs they’d be sharing unknowingly.

My baby had the norovirus at 4 months. Exclusively breastfed. No other children in the house. He was so ill we were very frightened. The GP was visiting after every surgery bless him.

I'm just not the sort of person to go mad about these kind of things. I am terrified of confrontation and had DSD with me too. I made it very clear I was unhappy. DH is going to speak to him too...

Glad I'm not BU. You know when you're so tired you don't know what's right and wrong anymore?

I would have issues with him kissing my baby's face regardless.

I hope the baby is fine. Thoughtless plank.

You and your DP really do not need this bug either. Some people are so dense.

All seems a bit odd- he has a cold and stomach bug together? And why would you go to a doctor for these things?

Maybe he’s a hypochondriac. My BIl is, if we treated him as uncontactable when their is something wrong with him no one would ever see him

I don't usually mind the kisses because they were on his forehead and cheeks and he asked DH in the past if he could. It just seems common sense not to when you're sick. I have a feeling he's probably not as sick as he seems. DH has just spoken to him on the phone... I don't think they'll be talking for a while! DH furious...