Overbearing friend... what to do?

[GoJetterGirl]

I have this friend who is being pretty overbearing at the moment, think constant calls, texts, WhatsApp, FB messager etc, and now a Facebook post more or less asking everyone else why I’m avoiding her!

Those of you who know my current situation will understand that time to myself is in short supply, and I have found that the only way I can rest and centr myself is to not reply to people until I’m ready, I’ve said as much, but the constant vying for attention is getting me to the point where I want to —rip her fucking head off— tell her to never contact me again and get a solicitor to send a letter telling her to leave me alone!

I’m pissed that she’s now bringing others into the situation using the “poor me” I try to help GoJetterGirl, but she’s not answering the phone (and a million other forms of communication attempt) to me”

AIBU to be ignoring her because I’ve told her to leave me alone?! And give mutual friends the real picture of what’s gone on so I don’t have X amount of people calling me unreasonable?

YANBU if you’ve made it clear to her that you want to be left alone and she’s wilfully ignoring that. Can you maybe just send one text saying you’ve seen the FB post and you’re rather baffled and reiterate what you have already told her.

Well I don't know your situation but what if a mutual friend let slip or got harassed into telling her the real reason. Would it make things worse?

You're not BU, btw. I hate people like that.

Block her on everything to save your sanity and don't give her another thought.

Block her on social media sites and from your contact list.

I need to do something or I’m gonna have some sort of mental breakdown... who on earth thinks it’s ok to keep trying to communicate if it’s been made clear I don’t want to?!

Sorry I don't know your situation at all, but that would do my head in.

However, instead of blocking etc (she might be one of these friends that genuinely thinks you might need someone around you....) maybe just send a one off text explaining that you don't want to talk at the minute and won't be answering any more messages.xx

I dealt with this exact situation about 4 years ago. I had made a new acquaintance (not a friend in my eyes), and straight away she was calling, texting, emailing constantly. It was so OTT it was shocking. Even after repeated commands to STOP she continued on. My husband and I were actually a bit concerned because it was truly "stalkerish" behaviour. I sent her a text, telling her that we can not have any type of relationship and that I was blocking her. I did and luckily I never heard from her again. She was unhinged.

Block this nutter and move on.

I'm sorry she's being like this. I've seen a few of your threads and whilst I can understand why she'd want to contact you to offer support, this is all about her! It's a me centred attitude including the involvement of FB friends for guidance 'look at me being so helpful and it's being rejected, horrible gojettergirl'
It's pathetic.
If you have already said you will reply when ready and she's ignoring you have 2 choices I think.

1. Send a message saying you're sorry for not replying immediately but are very busy and will reply when you're able. That the most supportive thing she can do is wait for you to contact her.
2. Block and ignore.

Quite frankly, what you're facing is so overwhelming I just would not care if I was offending someone by saying leave me alone! (And I am normally overly polite if I'm honest.) If she falls out with you or anyone judges you then that's on them.
Unmumsnetty hugs to you.