Xmas party vs croup...who wins

[GoatFinger]

Xmas party.
I finished nights and slept today. Ds has had a nasty virus and looks like croup.
DH has Xmas party and went out telling me his pal is his +1 (didn't even know anyone else was invited...i certainly wasn't).

He went after carrying poor sweaty little ds to me where he slept for 3hrs from 3pm-6pm, wee'd the bed and is currently barking like a seal intermittently while watching a movie and eating ice cream.

He's going to be fine and just needs to stay calm and sleep which he will want to do with me tonight.

Aibu or is my nightshift brain making me a bitch to think that sodding off on a night out with your mate and no doubt rolling in after smoking and drinking (so going to be zero help if anything changes later) a twatty thing to do?
Just so no drip feed, ds has had croup before and had to be taken by ambulance to hospital a year ago after throwing up and struggling to breathe so it's not like he has no idea how serious it can get.
I'm more than capable of looking after him. I guess he feels like he's done his half while I slept after nights do it's ok.

I dunno.

And im back on days tomorrow so I have to look after ds all night and half of tomorrow before going to work until midnight.

No I dont blame you for being upset. Croup is scary and you were working whereas he's out drinking.
Would you have gone to the party if he was home with him? I'm guessing not.
Hope your DS is better soon.

I Just feel like men (some) are so much better at prioritising themselves over anyone else.
No I wouldn't have gone unless it was something important or perhaps if I had forked out for it. But this is just a pub/bar drink meet. The real Xmas party is in December.

I looked after ds Sunday to Tuesday before DH had to come home so I could get some sleep before my nightshifts.

Just bizarre.

Plus I got a photo of the bar sent to me. Like 'look at the view from the bar I'm at'
I replied with a picture of ds all red and agitated.

I'd be removing his bollocks with a rusty spoon. Selfish gut.

gut git

I'm more than capable of looking after my ill child in those circumstances and would not want them to cancel in fact I would be annoyed if they did cancel, what would that say about their faith in my parenting

Ha.
I just think the idea of kids and family is good but the work side of it is always on me.

330am and no sign or text off DH.
Fearing the worst I ring to be told oh yes he's had fun and on his way home.

So I guess he won't be going to work tomorrow.

Dick

He's sent some drunk nonsense about do I not want to see him etc. No I do not. It's 4am. I've been tossing and turning since midnight and am worried when I hear nothing from my text and he's not back.