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107 replies

LokiBear · 28/11/2018 22:34

DH is a qualified teacher. He just mooted the idea that he might quit his job and register as a childminder. I said I didn't think that many people would want to leave young babies with a male childminder as its quite unusual to hear of male childminders. DH said he thinks lots of people would. So, we decided to ask on here. Simply looking for a yes/no answer; no elaboration needed. I dont think dh is serious about really quitting his job, but genuinly interested in seeing if people would choose a male childminder.

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SneakyGremlins · 28/11/2018 22:35

I would and it's something I've considered doing myself in the future.

Calzone · 28/11/2018 22:36

Yes definitely

NancyDonahue · 28/11/2018 22:37

I would if I thought he was the best child minder available. If he's a teacher (primary?)I guess he would be really good with young children.

NoThankyouHun · 28/11/2018 22:37

Hmm I think I wouldn't because it would make my husband feel uncomfortable for the "what if" risk. A teacher is in a school surrounded by hundreds of "witnesses" but a childminder at home with just 4 kids maybe 4 babies? And male? I can just see my husband's response if I suggested that. No reflection on your husband at all OP it's just a lot of people worry about that sort of thing these days and that's why I would say no.

SpottingTheZebras · 28/11/2018 22:38

Yes.

flintfoxy · 28/11/2018 22:38

Yes I would

Mummyshark2018 · 28/11/2018 22:39

I know 2 male childminders and they don't have any spaces.....

NoThankyouHun · 28/11/2018 22:39

^^ sorry that came out weird. I think you know what I'm getting at I'm thinking objectively from the point of view of people that wouldn't agree with a male child minder. My husband being one of those (old school old fashioned and a bit paranoid) I probably wouldn't mind personally but I know he'd hate the idea..

Pumpkintopf · 28/11/2018 22:40

Yes, particularly as he's a qualified and experienced teacher.

Wanttomakemincepies · 28/11/2018 22:40

Yes. The male nursery nurse at our old nursery was a favourite with parents and children alike.

Theknacktoflying · 28/11/2018 22:42

I wouldn’t but I am just biased and old fashioned.

Somehow, I don’t think men are really welcomed with open arms in baby and toddler groups ....

Sorry

Boxerbinky · 28/11/2018 22:43

I wouldn't care that he was a man, the teaching qualification also a bonus!

Dinosaursdontgrowontrees · 28/11/2018 22:45

I know 2 male childminders they are both fabulous and extremely popular.

LokiBear · 28/11/2018 22:46

Dh is currently feeling very smug! @NoThankyouHun I completely understand what you mean, I think thats why my initial thought was 'no one will want to leave their kid with a male childminder'. Completely wrong, I know. I can't justify it at all and I do not agree wuth myself. It was just my first thought. Dd2 goes to nursery. I like the fact that there are several different adults who deal with her on a daily basis. Lots of people around and managers ensuring standards are being met. Makes me feel more secure.

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BluebellCockleshell123 · 28/11/2018 22:47

I absolutely would if my kids were younger. My kids are all boys and we have had a few male au pairs.
I don't think there are enough male role models in caring positions for young children.

kenandbarbie · 28/11/2018 22:48

Yes since he's a primary school teacher

TwistedStitch · 28/11/2018 22:50

No I wouldn't simply because of it being sole care.

category12 · 28/11/2018 22:51

No.

I'd think he was over-qualified. I dunno, I'd expect a childminder to be more about providing a homely atmosphere and care - while teachers, er, teach. I daresay he can do all the homely caring bits, but I'd worry it'd just be an incarnation of school in a house.

Won't he be bored?

Couldn't he make loads more money than he could child-minding by just doing Supply teaching, even a few days a week, if he no longer wants his current teaching role?

LanceStatersGold · 28/11/2018 22:52

Yes, I would - and I do!

glitterfarts · 28/11/2018 22:54

No due to CSA history

Bouchie · 28/11/2018 22:57

I would if he had some experience and I like him (same as a female CM).

AnotherClone · 28/11/2018 22:59

No I wouldn’t because I would be worried about abuse. My child was abused in childcare and I will always prioritise my child’s safety and my comfort about it even if that seems unfair to people like your husband.

DisneyMillie · 28/11/2018 22:59

I have no good reason and I know I’m in the wrong for feeling this way but no I wouldn’t.

theworldistoosmall · 28/11/2018 23:02

I don't give a monkey what sex the childminder is. I care that they are competent to do their job.
My eldest's worker was male, twenty-something years ago. The crap we all listened to about this was horrific and it seems 20 years later people are still arseholes.

My csa came from male and female btw.

PurpleDaisies · 28/11/2018 23:02

Couldn't he make loads more money than he could child-minding by just doing Supply teaching, even a few days a week, if he no longer wants his current teaching role?

Supply teaching is not for everyone. I’d hate having no relationship with the kids, not knowing when you’re going to work or not, being left crap cover work...

Child minding is a really important role which I’m sure is very rewarding.