Vaping in the car!

[JillianHoltzmann]

I'd like to start this by saying my mum is actually really supportive and she's always there for me.

When I was pregnant we planned to go and visit my grandma when the baby was born. Mum's boyfriend was going to hire a car. I can't drive and neither can my mum. I haven't seen my grandmother for four years and she has dementia.
Background out of the way, mum has arranged to borrow a friend's car so they don't have to pay to rent one. I said that I wasn't comfortable taking the baby in the car if mum's boyfriend was going to vape.

This started mum off. She said I had to tell him that and, when I said that it was her boyfriend and I didn't know him well enough, said that I was the one being unreasonable, and "nobody gets to do anything if Jillian doesn't get what she wants!"

She did eventually ask him. He said he wouldn't be able to drive "all that way" (it is an hour and half drive) without vaping. I can't take public transport because it's very expensive and would still require a 3 mile walk with the pram. I've outright refused to take the baby, but as you can imagine I am quite upset that I won't be able to see my grandma!

I know that vaping isn't the same as smoking, however breathing in vegetable oil can't be good for a 9 week old baby!

Can he not stop the car on the way at a service station and have a vape in the car park outside the car? Surely this is the logical solution ??

He said he wouldn't be able to drive "all that way" (it is an hour and half drive) without vaping
Why can't he stop along the way?

He won't even vape outside the house, I don't visit when he's in town. So asking him to stop is unlikely to get much traction but I will mention this

So I asked if he would mind stopping to vape, he said "why should I have to? It's not bad go you like smoking!"

He's doing you a favour, it's not really on for you to dictate to him on his behaviour whilst doing that favour. Just ask if he wouldn't mind breathing the smoke out of the window and close it again between vapes?

Stick to your guns, he’s being a man child and putting his grim habit above your concerns for your child.

Cassiopeia, he won't be doing me a favour because I won't be going, which has seriously upset my mum- she's trying to convince me to change my mind and stop being "selfish". Not that it matters, but me and my sister were going to give him some money, for petrol mostly but also as a thanks. Essentially he would have been taxi-ing us.
If it had been a gum-habit or similar, I would have had no problem, but vaping affects other people. Especially 9 week old babies with underdeveloped lung capacity. Maybe I am unreasonable to expect this and a bit PFB, that's why I've posted here.

You need to look up the toxic waste products from gaping, its illegal to smoke in the car and exhaling vape is the same. The heat required to burn the nicotine still causes toxic products to be released into the air.

I think he is completely unreasonable to force everyone in the car to share his exhaled nicotine and other toxic waste, especially a baby!!!

What's the matter with having a coffee stop half way there, there just no need, selfish fucker

Maybe ask your DM to phone the local labour ward and ask if they mind and allow vaping around the babies, or whether its legal for children to vape?