To feel this jealous?

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I was best friends with someone since 15 to 30.
We were like sisters ,rang each other every day and went out a few times a week,shopping or food or just a natter.
We fell out and didn't speak for 2 years.
In that time she's became good friends with someone else.
We've recently started talking again and she added me to her f/b.
I had a bit of a nosey and there's posts of them eating out at places we did,shopping together,going for coffees etc.
She's replaced me with her.
I'm honestly heartbroken.
Aibu to feel this way?

YABU- you fell out and didn’t talk for 2 years. She moved on. You obviously haven’t.

Well did you expect her not to have any other friends in that 2 years?

I don't know what I expected really.
It's just a bit sad for me.

Of course she has other friends
Didn't you make any new friends ?

nothing wrong with feeling a bit sad about it

Yabu. You didn't talk for two years. What was she supposed to do? Sit in a darkened room and not live her life? A tad unrealistic don't you think?

Have you made new friends in the last 2 years?

I can understand how your feeling, I bet you realise its unreasonable but you can't help it feeling this way.
I'm sure I would be too, give it time and you might get that friendship back again,
don't let feeling this way get in the way though

I have other friends who I'm really close too myself.
We go on holidays together etc
I know it's unreasonable for me to feel like this.
I'm hoping we get our friendship back

Do you know her new friend? Or when they met?

I don't know her no.
They met last year on a jobseekers course she said.

So you found other friends and are sad that she does?

If you cares about her, surely you would be glad that she had company during your fallout?

It’s normal to feel sad about these type of things,it’s like a feeling of rejection I would imagine in a day or two you’ll realise it’s not really a big deal though

It's not that I didn't want her to be happy ..it's just the feeling of being replaceable

You both are and are not being unreasonable. Unreasonable to feel that she shouldn’t have ‘replaced’ you with friends since you stopped speaking, but not unreasonable to feel sad about what you’ve lost

Jealously is a normal human emotion, don’t beat yourself up over it. The level of negativity from people here is really uncalled for. I hope you and your friend recover your friendship

Yanbu for feeling jealous. You’ve said it yourself: you feel replaceable and that’s tough to deal with. However, relationships change because people change. Accept and be happy for what you had together, but give yourself time to get over that. Focus on yourself now and building other relationships.

I don't think YANBU to feel this way, but you would be unreasonable to let her know that you do, as it might make it difficult to get your friendship back on track.

I understand how you feel, although my situation is slightly different. My closest friend and I have known each other for 20+ years and have been through all sorts together (boyfriends, marriages, babies, illness etc.) and have always spoken at least once a week even when we've been busy and have seen each other at least once a month in this time.

My other closest friend was a Mum from school who had children in the same classes as my 2 DDs. The 2 friends had never met, but of course I had spoken about each of them to the other over the last few years (always kindly, luckily as it turns out for me...) Both friends decided to send their children to the same school from last September so I put them in touch and facilitated a meet up so all the kids could get to know one another before the new term began. This was at the start of August and I have seen neither of my friends since.

I have called and texted both, but apart from a few quick texts to say hi or to reply to my messages, I haven't been able to pin down my oldest friend for a proper chat or to meet up in over 4 months now, which makes me sad. What makes me really jealous though, is seeing all over Facebook that these 2 friends have now become bosom buddies and seem to do everything together with their kids. All the things we used to do, they now do without me and my DDs. It makes me sad, and as I said, jealous - but if I were to say so, it would make me seem mean and petty; after all, I introduced them, talked them up to one another and hoped they would become friends. But I have to be honest with myself and admit that I had hoped that encouraging them to be friends wouldn't be at the cost of my close friendship with them both.

I think you're lucky to be in a position where you have the opportunity to rebuild your friendship - I would grab it with both hands and try very hard not to let your jealousy about her friendship with this other person affect your relationship with her. I know it feels rotten, but it sounds like you had a great friendship, which you clearly valued so do please try not to spoil it for yourself, though it may seem easier said than done!