Posting for traffic..How to stop Breastfeeding

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DD is 18 months and is still bfing, just before her afternoon nap and night time.
I need to remove the afternoon one, she either screams and screams till I give in, or she just won't sleep.
She won't take a bottle, I've tried giving her milk from a cup she'll drink it but still wants the breast for comfort I think

I'm afraid that if you want to stop a feed then you'll just have to deal with the screaming. It won't last long but that's the only way. If dad is around then maybe he can take over with the cup so she can't smell your milk, he might have an easier time as he has only the cup to offer if you see what I mean. I breastfed my four children for around 18 months each, dad din't help and so I dealt with the screaming, it was hard and my boobs wanted them to feed but it was over sooner and easier than I thought it would be. Good luck.

Thank you.
Tbh I've only let her scream and cry for around 5 minutes then give up, I'll try wait it out for longer

Why do you have to stop? Do you want to? Or do you think you should?
I found that when I “tried” to stop- I didn’t manage. But when I actually wanted to- I did. I cut down and started putting boundaries on feeds- only in bed, only for 2/3 minutes or whatever. Warm milk in cups and then a countdown and a “big boy” present then no more mummy milk.

I was the same as you, still bf DC2 to sleep for naps and bedtime. I had to step away from bedtimes completely to stop bf. DH took over and I left them to it and the habit soon changed.

I think she is still associating it with sleep so I would think you have to break the cycle. Could you start moving it earlier and earlier even just 15 min before taking her up to bed to start with and then cuddling her to sleep instead. Then eventually when she doesn't associate it with sleeping any more, offer her her favourite snack instead. Or do it at a weekend or time when your partner or family etc are around and get them to put her down for a nap instead so she forgets she needs a feed first?

Hi! I stopped at 15 months and posted on here loads because I was so worried about the screaming and refusing a bottle.

It took two nights of horrid sleep, she would paddy for about 15 mins and then fall sleep.
She now has a bottle of cows milk before bed and before her nap

and now she’s gone from waking up every 3 hours to sleeping all night 🙌🏻 It’s the best thing for us all as we can all sleep now

Good luck!!

I need to stop as I find she is waking in the night a few times now, and won't settle until i give the breast. I'm returning to work 12.5 hour shifts so I won't be there 3 days a week to do it!

We used a dummy and told him the milk was all gone

For the ones during the night I'd go cold turkey, I had to do that with mine. Vest and high necked PJs so they can't help themselves then if they wake in the night give cuddles only. The first 2-3 nights were rough with lots of demands for milk then we had a few nights of waking up and accepting only a cuddle then they stopped waking up at all.

I've got her to sleep tonight without it! Lets see how the night goes, she refuses a bottle/dummy/cup I've tried