To make an anonymous referral to adult social care for FIL?

[GoJetterGirl]

So,

Following several conversations re: FILs memory and his ability to continue driving, I’m still no further forward...

I’m now at the point where I’m seriously considering an anonymous referral to adult social care in the hope that they will recognise that MIL is continuing to ignore his current memory issues and covering her entitlement to be driven everywhere and taken on holiday several times a year!

Also, I’m told the only thing they can do is give a courtesy call to check if they require any help, is there anyone else I can approach to get FIL the help he needs?

Regarding the driving I would contact the DVLA ASAP , he is putting people on the road at risk as well as himself and your MIL . If you don’t and he crashes and kills someone you would never forgive yourself . DVLA will request a medical examination . If he doesn’t attend or fails it they will revoke his license. Personally I think when you reach a certain age you should have to retake your test again anyway.

I would also contact social services and see if they can offer any further help or support x

live.email-dvla.service.gov.uk/w2c/en_gb/decisions/drivers%20medical

If you make a referral they have to inform mil that one has been made and to be honest I don't think they will act on this having worked in the sector. I would contact the gp and state your concerns re driving and he can make a memory assessment referral and also get his licence revoked.

I think I would start with the DVLA definitely, it's too important to ignore.

Report him to the DVLA. Let his GP know your concerns. Then sit back and watch sweet fa happen. bitter We got my father taken off the road years ago. Took months - and that was with my mother on board. One thing we did with my dad that helped was flattening the battery on his car (turn radio on, volume down and leave). But this is only possible in older cars and if you can get the garage to play ball.

When my dad did lose his license but wouldnt stop driving/trying to drive the local police were very helpful. But again - my mum was on board.

I’ve already reported to the DVLA, no help has been forthcoming....