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To not want to go back for tomorrow’s ski lesson (second ever). Long and boring post!

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skiouch · 28/11/2018 09:48

Just that really. Did my first ever day of skiing today, there were three in our beginners group. Me and a young couple who have never skied. The man was a natural and the woman was a more anxious beginner. I was sort of in the middle, confidence and ability wise. The instructor was very nice and seemed quite capable, but went a bit fast in terms of expectation re our progress and detail of instructions, the latter being more significant to me. It’s supposed to be a three day course. My boots were too big so the back rubbed, so I have tiny scabs on my ankles despite coming prepared with plasters and applying them mid-day. The skin was so sore I sat out the last hour of the lesson. The back of the boot is so big the whole heel lifts up about an inch when I walk, especially uphill. I went back to the ski rental place and the next size down all cramped my second toe so they advised to stick with these and buy a pair of thick socks which I have done. The rental place is associated with the ski school and they had three different brands for me to try in both the original size and the next size down and all of the next size down put pressure on my second toe.

Also I felt we were progressing a little quickly and we were moved onto a (very small by skiing standards) incline after lunch that crossed the path of the bottom of a ski run, and the path out from the chairlift. (We never did any runs, just little inclines near the runs). There was a kind of dip in the incline so you accelerated for a bit, and it was a bit icy by the afternoon. The instructor was trying to teach us to stop into a left turn say, then start off again and turn the other way etc. I picked up so much speed I think I panicked and fell backwards to try and stop myself (I think that’s what I was thinking at the time - that’s what she said I did!) rather than putting my weight onto my outside ski, and tumbled down and landed on my shoulder which got very sore, and is still a bit sore now. She told me I should’ve slowed down and demonstrated how, by pointing my toes inward, but she hadn’t told us that before! I knew only to stop that way, not control the pace of the skis. The other woman in the group and I asked to go back to the very gentle run after this, but my skin was too sore to do anything on it. The instructor’s original plan was to move us straight into the green slope after the bigger incline described above - I wouldn’t have stood a chance on that one.

I am just dreading tomorrow; picking up all the heavy gear, getting on the gondola in these unfamiliar boots which feel hard to balance on when walking in them alone, having the instructor have to split her attention (though this is of course fair enough as a group lesson is what I paid for!), and most of all I’m dreading my ankle skin being as sore as yesterday when i trudge back up inclines, and the snow surface being so hard as when I fell yesterday afternoon. Also the difficulty of the slope increasing more than I am prepared for.

Furthermore I don’t know if I can think and put together all the instructions when going fast - I’m not generally an adrenaline, think under pressure type person. It was basically a couple hours of instruction in the morning - how to stop in one direction by pointing toes inward, and how to turn or stop into a turn by putting weight on outside foot but inside blade - is that all most people need to attempt the first slope? I suspect it probably is - I don’t know how much my worry is clouding things.

Am I being a wuss? I mightn’t get the opportunity to ski again, but I am possibly overly scared of injuring myself. I feel if I had nice fitting boots and a one on one lesson (way out of my price range now - one afternoon of about 2.5h without rental or lift pass is 1.5x the cost of the whole three full day group course with rents and lift pass) I might stand a chance but for now I am so worried about my ankle skin being sore, the pain on the scabs from trudging back up the small inclines, and having the slope incline increase largely in difficulty and not being prepared for that, rather the increase in difficulty being incremental. I feel I’m being precious and don’t want to regret not going, but am worried about doing myself an injury and not feeling safe.

Should I muddle through or is it okay to just stop? As I say don’t know if I’m being a wuss.

OP posts:
wizzywig · 28/11/2018 09:50

Its ok to stop. Learning to ski is so hard when you arent a natural. I hated those boots too. Couldnt walk in them.

mammmamia · 28/11/2018 09:53

Everyone hates the first day of skiing. Everyone.
Give it two more days I would say.
Whereabouts are you?

massistar · 28/11/2018 09:53

I'd persist with getting boots that fit you. If you're getting heel slip you won't be able to put pressure on the right points to control the skis. It can make the world of difference.

It's going to be hard going for the first couple of days though so I'd keep trying!

thenightsky · 28/11/2018 09:55

I wouldn't go back but I'd let them know why (the boots not being available in the correct fitting/size). I'm bad enough with new shoes rubbing blisters, so god know how awful your poor feet must feel after a full day in those boots! Plus your shoulder hurting. Nah. Knock it on the head. Its meant to be fun.

araiwa · 28/11/2018 09:56

Trying is the first step to failure and realising this on only your first lesson puts you ahead of the curve

I too quit stuff if im not completely proficient after my first lesson. Saves time

Hotpinkparade · 28/11/2018 09:56

God, I hated skiing so much to start with. My first day actually out on a mountain (after lessons in the UK) I just cried and cried. I was so obnoxious, like a really stroppy toddler. Anyway it improved. I stuck with it, now it’s literally my favourite thing to do, I go for two weeks every year and, on my second trip, invested in a rental property in a ski village. I guess I stuck with it because my new boyfriend was such a keen skier, I didn’t want to give up, even though I’m not sporty at all and wasn’t particularly good at it.

incywincybitofa · 28/11/2018 09:57

If the boots don't fit then you won't be learning to ski properly a properly fitting boot is important for control

AGirlinLondon · 28/11/2018 09:58

You are so brave to learn as an adult - good on you!! As kids we fall over a thousand times a day so easier to learn. As adults falling over is a much bigger deal so scary.

The boots thing is properly crucial. I have changed boots three days in a row if I’m not happy with them. They should be looking to adjust the clips of the boots and bindings for you. You have to be comfy. Lots of people have their own boots but not practical if you’re doing casually.

And I guess all I can say is try to relax if you possibly can. Ski shape like french fries to go, like a slice of pizza to stop. Leaning backwards will always make you speed up so try to avoid that even if it feels like the safe thing to do!

empmalswa · 28/11/2018 10:03

Why are you doing it? Are you on an actual ski trip? Preparing for one? Or just doing it for fun?

DanglyBangly · 28/11/2018 10:05

Skiing is horrible for the first few days, painful, hard and demoralising. If you can get through that, it improves very quickly.

May I ask why you are learning to ski? Do you intend to go on skiing holidays, have friends or a partner that goes?

HundredMilesAnHour · 28/11/2018 10:07

Learning to ski as an adult can be hard. Especially for women as we tend to over-think it whereas the average man seems to be much more gungho and less worried about falling/getting injured etc.

I do, however, think you're focussing far too much on the negatives and making yourself really miserable. Strap your feet up with plasters/bandages and put several pairs of thick socks on then you won't feel anything. Rental ski boots are rarely great so the sock padding will help you. And stop worrying about the rest!

If you fall, you fall. Just try to relax then you won't hurt yourself. I will admit that I'm a better skier after a few glasses of wine because I'm more relaxed (and more gungho!) but probably not the best advice to a beginner.

But if it's making you miserable, stop.

Sparklingbrook · 28/11/2018 10:08

I would stop. Sounds miserable

ForTheLoveOfDoughnuts · 28/11/2018 10:10

I feel your pain. I've been skiing 4 or 5 times now, I always do lessons because I'm still crap. Though I do enjoy doing the blue runs (mostly) now.
I'd give the next 2 days a good shot. The first day was awful for me too

easyandy101 · 28/11/2018 10:10

By the third day you'll be flying, stick with it

Dragongirl10 · 28/11/2018 10:14

I tried skiing at 33 for the first time, yes it was tough and l had blisters after the first day, but double up on the socks and tripple plasters and keep going......once you have got the hang of it, it is fab really fun....although l never attempt anything harder than a green run!!

Fruitbatdancer · 28/11/2018 10:16

Take some pain killers before you go (helps with blister pain) and have some hot chocolate with brandy in (or a bottle of wine at lunch!) it does get easier I promise you muscles learn a whole new way - every year my first day is grim and achy.
Go back to the hire place and explain about the boots, you might have the wrong fit.
Also I find it much easier on slightly steeper slopes than flat ones- much easier on the momentum.
I’ll caveat this by saying I have been skiing for 34 years. I’ve taken a lot of beginners with me, and about 75% end up loving it. 25% just never click and spend the week taking lovely photos from the piste side bar! No shame in that! So whatever you decide don’t beat yourself up over it!

thatmustbenigelwiththebrie · 28/11/2018 10:16

At least you're having lessons! DP and I, having never skied, went to stay with a mate who had moved to the Alps. He put us on a chair lift, didn't tell us how to get off and then made us go down a red run. It was a baptism of fire.

By the third day I'd (kind of) got the hang of it. I suggest you keep going.

LaurieMarlow · 28/11/2018 10:21

Keep going. Skiing is very front loaded. You need to put a lot of effort in at the start which pays off in time.

I learnt as an adult and it was a week before I actually enjoyed myself. I love it now. It's definitely worth the hard slog.

Sparklingbrook · 28/11/2018 10:21

The piste side bar sounds the way to go. Grin

LIZS · 28/11/2018 10:22

I would suggest an insole rather than additional thick socks. Also ask the shop to show you how to adjust the fit. Your heel should not move. It is fine to stay on the nursery slope. Are you fairly fit?

SunnySomer · 28/11/2018 10:22

Agree with everyone else. The first day is always awful, the sense of being totally out of control is terrifying and boot pain horrific. Get some compeed to cushion your blister/sore patches then go back to the rental place and get boots that fit. A good fit is tighter than you would expect and definitely tighter than shoes you would walk in. It’s disconcerting initially - I was always tempted to go for too large boots but then you can’t control your skis plus put too much strain on your legs.

Are you in USA or somewhere now? (Given time of day). If you have a warm bath/sauna that should make you feel a bit better.
It is worth giving it another couple of goes. When you venture slightly further afield with the instructor it all becomes more rewarding.
For what it’s worth, I’m the least coordinated person on the planet. Bad at steering a bike, even get told off in Nordic walking for not managing technique, fearful of loads of stuff, but when you’ve learned the feeling of the snow it becomes a joy. It’s just a matter of overcoming the initial few days. Good luck!

museumum · 28/11/2018 10:32

it's worth it. honestly.

ski boots should feel tight not loose, they're not comfortable but if they're not tight you can't control the ski so i'd swap for the squishy ones even though they will feel uncomfy too. Better to be uncomfy and in control than uncomfy and not in control.

it does take a while to get it though, sorry, you need a week or so of lessons and then some practice and probably another week before you'll get hooked.

similarminimer · 28/11/2018 10:33

Can you get those expensive blister plasters. Totally pad the area and stop them hurting? First day always awful and scary. It will get better. And hopefully the other 2 will have agreed between them that the group needs to go slower to accommodate everyone.

VaselineHero · 28/11/2018 10:36

Agree with going back to the boot hire shop. I had to suffer with painful boots for years before I bought my own. It does take the fun out of it having sore or cramped feet.

Personally I'd persevere - it's so worth it when you get to the top of the mountain!

Pearpair4 · 28/11/2018 10:44

I would go with the tighter boots, loose boots and you’re not in control.

Can you say to the teacher you want to practice CONTROL a lot before moving on? Stoping / slowing down? It sounds like the majority of the group (you and the other women) would prefer a slower pace so the man can either go along with that or move groups?

It is worth it, and the beginning is horrible.

If you can possibly switch to 1:1 lessons that completely transformed my experience of learning to ski. Half a day 1:1 is so much better than a miserable full day in a group. You obviously go at your pace and you feel completely safe as the instructors full attention is On you.