Thinking of going back to DH so I can protect DS

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Basicly in a nutshell because DH never touched me or DS it was all verbal and throwing objects and smashing objects he will get to have DS if not for half the time then a substanal amount.
I won’t be there to protect DS.

Thinking of going back so at least I am around all the time
I know of a friend that was in the same boag and she left him and by the time she had convinced socials services and the courts he was unfit to be around her DS so much emotional damage had been done that 5 years later her DS is still having the effects of it all.
I feel sick

Who had told you he’s going to get him half of the time?

OP I know it's really difficult. I had the same concerns but bringing your DS up constantly exposed to this is not the solution.

Have the police or SS ever been involved at all?

How old is DS?

Of course you don't go back! You report his violence to ss and do everything you can to keep him away from your child.

He is five. I have reached out to social services but DH is like the perfect husband in front of them and he is also a teacher. Next phones police but wish I had. He has trained DS to lie and say he is the perfect dad.

He also goes on about my disability making it hard for him (I have seizures) and the social worker seems to think I would be more of a risk to DS because of that then he is.

I am also taking legal advise.
DH says I am lying to discredit him. My word against his.

Social worker says DH had the visitation rights and the courts will agree

I'm not going to tell you the information you've been given is wrong because it isn't. He will get contact and it will be anything from 25% to 50%. The courts won't care about your concerns.

But you can't put yourself or your DS through the torture of living with this constantly. You can create a safe, loving environment that your DS can be in for 70% of the time and do what you can to avoid negative impacts on him when he's with his dad by showing him what a good parent is like.

If you go back you are showing yoir DS the way your H behaves is normal and acceptable.

Have you spoken to Women's Aid?

I left and I've never regretted it. Yes, ex isn't great around DC and regarding DC but I do what I can to minimise the damage.