To have a totally negative thread and get it out of my system

[justneedtotellsomeone]

I am dreading Christmas.

Absolutely utterly dreading it.

Every year I promise it will be different and it isn’t!

Book a 'holiday for one' somewhere lovely and come back when it's over !

I have no one to go with and no money. I warned you it would be a negative thread!

Me too. I'd love to cancel the whole thing and barricade myself in my house with my cat and an Indian take away. Cannot be arsed with any of it.

@justneedtotellsomeone

Like to tell us a bit more about why you’re dreading it? Lots of us have had difficult times at Christmas- we can listen and support you

It’s going to be incredibly lonely and everyone else will be surrounded by family. Yes, they may not like them and so on but still.

I've offered to pick up any shifts nobody else wants over Christmas. My Mum died 15 weeks ago as I can't be arsed with it. I'm having party food and Netflix.

I’m sorry flaming

Can you volunteer to boost self esteem by doing a really good thing for others??

That doesn't make any sense sorry.

Can you volunteer - as a way of boosting your self esteem as you will be doing something really nice

I have tried that. To be totally honest here it just made me feel quite low. And also I am pretty much bottom of the pile as it is.

I knew what you meant don’t worry

There are usually lonely elderly people who would love some Christmas company, maybe try an old persons charity for information if that sounds like something you’d enjoy.

Were you alone last Christmas? Is a busy Christmas full of friends and family what you really want?

Asking because I spent the last 3 Christmas’s on my own and it was wretched, but this year things will be better and next year even better still (I hope).

Yes ... it isn’t really. I mean, I would want to be surrounded by my own family and friends not random people

Ok, do you want to tell us why you feel that’s not possible this Christmas? Sorry for all the questions, we want to support you and there wasn’t too much info in your OP (which I understand as you wanted it to be negative).

Being on your own at Christmas when you don’t want to be is shit

Do you actually have family and friends? If so, why not ask them if you can spend the day with them?

Me too Op ,
I hope things get better for you

Well, think of the things you would do to make a normal day exciting. Netflix, chocolate, new make up, a budget for an online shopping splurge etc. Then, plan to do them on the 25th December.
It really is 'just another day' only with a shit tonne of expectation piled onto it!

No fission no one I can spend the day with

I was overseas and had this due to a horrific break up , so couldn't get leave etc to see family.
It was hard so you do have my sympathy. I saved money I'd have spent on presents/flights and went to a spa and brunch at a posh hotel. It was expensive but worth it as I had a very very nice day!
Could you do something similar or plan a treat for Xmas Eve and have a duvet day?

OP, I know you want this to be negative and feel free to share and wallow in negativity- we’ll support you because it is shit to be on your own when you don’t want to be. However, I cannot help to be positive, so will suggest the following:

1 - You could start another thread in advance to round up everyone else on MN to virtually spend the day together (has been done before!)

2 - you said you’d have no money. It may not be for you but how about being a housesitter over Christmas? www.trustedhousesitters.com/blog/house-sitting/how-to-find-house-sitting-opportunities-for-christmas/

3 - come back to us in January when it’s over and we will help you plan a Christmas.that you won’t dread in 2019 (if you want us to)