Tips for nerves? New job

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I know its not a typical AIBU but I was unsure where to post,sorry!

So I start a new job tomorrow, its something I have wanted to do for a really long time however i was in a extremely toxic relationship and had a young child, ended that,moved house and now DD(5) goes to school.
Finally got an interview and got offered the job, but today im deeply regretting even applying, I havent worked in a while, I feel like I don't have the right skills and they are going to regret giving me the job and fire me or I will make silly mistakes or something else. Im so scred of this not working out and being everything I wanted it to be.
Myself and my DD need this to work, to get money and my nerves are really getting the better of me right now, does anybody have any tips at all please to help me be able to hopefully succeed?

Congratulations on your job.

I always think that employers are just pleased you turn up on your first day. And at that stage, no-one expects anything from you really. And unless you do something completely outrageous, no-one will judge you on anything for a while.

Remember they're happy to have you. Don't be afraid to say if you haven't understood something, notebook and pen on hand to make notes and help you not to forget.

Once you get there, you'll be so focused on taking it all in that you'll forget to be nervous. Prepare to be really tired in the evenings for a while though - concentrating is hard work!

Best of luck to you, OP.

Its normal to feel totally out of place and as if you’re not capable of the job for the first few weeks or months while you learn how to do it. Keep reminding yourself that that feeling is normal and will gradually pass with time.

I like to keep notes when i’m learning new things and add to them as I go along to help the new procedurws sink in more quickly.

Fake it till you make it baby. You got this.

Starting a new job is always nerve wracking. It helps me to remember that every single working person knows what it feels like and then I just take it day by day - before you know it you'll be so used to the policies and procedures that feel so alien now that you'll wonder why you were so afraid. Don't be afraid to ask questions and admit that you don't know things; far better than not piping up or blagging and then exposing the fact that you did that much further down the line in making an avoidable mistake.

Very best of luck!!

Thank you all for your lovely replies, I have packed a notepad and pen, its just training for now so I will be sure to speak up and ask if need be.

Dress up so you feel good.
New undies were always my happy place...
Smash it sweetie... Xxx

The key to a great interview is preparation, and more preparation - research as much as you can about the company, have some questions ready to ask them and prepare loose answers for the typical questions (e.g. why do you want this job, tell me about yourself) plenty of examples online.

In terms of coping with nerves, a trick I always do is the bear pose. Go to the toilet and stand legs wide apart, arms in the air and do an aggressive face, as if you were a grizzly bear attacking. Sounds STUPID I know but it's a really amazing way of tricking your body into feeling confident and ready to attack, not scare off. When in the interview itself, sit upright, arms and hands out in front, shoulders back, eye contact. This will help you feel less nervous.

The thing about job interviews is, is they WANT you to be good. They aren't looking to trick you out, they really want to find someone great. If they've invited for interview, then everything you've told them so far is what they are looking for, the interview is just to prove you are a nice person, friendly, easy to work with and eager to work for them. Just get that across and you're winning.

The OP already aced the interview spanishwife, and starts the job tomorrow. Although I am totally trying the grizzly bear manoeuvre next time I need a confidence boost.

Oh balls wrong thread. Just enough of the same kind of words to confuse me haha.

Well - the grizzly bear thing totally works! There's an amazing TED talk from 'Amy Cuddy' on Body Language and confidence with the message 'Fake it til you become'

Hey, just posting an update. I started the new job its a care assistant role in a nursing home for people with dementia. Its going really well and the residents are lovely! Feel slightly silly at times not knowing what to do but that is how you learn ans progress isn't it. Thanks again for the replies!

Glad it's going well for you.You will slowly start doing things without having to think so much.Youll know when as you will be less exhausted after a shift .