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Am I wrong to end friendship once and for all?

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alessandrae83 · 26/11/2018 21:16

Im still half blinded by if I've had a toxic friend. Does this sound really toxic..

I had a friend, we had known each other for years. I was mainly her shoulder to cry on but she would offer hers from time to time. We went through a pregnancy at the same time and i was first to know and hold the baby. We got each other's kids presents for bday and Christmas. We did a lot together and then her ex came onto me at a time she was having a mental health crisis. I didn't want to tell her because they were ex's and I didn't reciprocate and she was already very vulnerable. Eventually i had to as my husband would have. She believed me for about 2 seconds before ditching me and him. She forgave him within a fortnight but didn't speak to me for a year. She finally came back when she wanted me to help her fight a battle against her neighbour. I said no at first but eventually caved. We became friends again. She didn't invite me round though but then i didn't her either. She still got things for my kids and even got me things when I was unwell but I barely saw her except for at school or when she needed my help. She had time to invite others round and go out with them. She conveniently forgot plans we had and she never fought for our friendship or apologised for anything she did. I would if I was wrong. Now her daughter was picking on my son at school and my son threatened her daughter after finally snapping. Her daughter lied to my face about bullying my son. I've seen that little girl grow up. My husband who never really liked my friend confronted my friend and her girl in a none aggressive way and my friend went straight to the head at school about it as her daughter cried. Am I wrong for being angry and deciding after everything to cut her out? I thought after all we had been through she would have spoken to me about the issue first and we could have sorted it out ourselves. Or at least told me she was considering doing it or even tell me she had done it. Instead I only found out when we were called to a meeting with the head teacher. She acted like she hadn't done anything wrong. Never told me and tried talking to me as normal the same afternoon. I just gave her a look of don't talk to me and she's avoided me since. She hasn't asked me why or explained or apologised as usual.

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7yo7yo · 26/11/2018 21:18

Nope, kids come first. Let your son see that you stuck up for him.

M4J4 · 26/11/2018 21:37

Definitely ignore her from now on. It's not a healthy friendship.

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