Bad school experience has left me very low

[KateGrey]

Last year my son started mainstream school. He has autism but has an ehcp and had top up funding from the council so he had a full time 1:1 except school stopped him attending, left him out of school life by locking him in and out of classrooms away from the other children. He never made it to a full day because of the school. Council confirmed basic reasonable adjustments including a daily timetable had never been done. We went to a tribunal a month ago and the judge ruled the school had discriminated. The school have apologised and will be doing some training.

Except and this sounds so stupid but the experience has left me feeling very sad and down. It was a very hard year as I couldn’t take my other son to school as his brother wasn’t allowed in until a lot later. School staff made comments about my son. I don’t know how to move past it. The head and senco remain in post. But I’m struggling. Today I was crying about it. My son is at a better school but and I feel dramatic saying it but the experience seems to have deeply affected me. My older son really struggled with the way his brother was treated as well which has added to the stress and I feel like I didn’t give my older son enough attention during this time. There were many other unpleasant incidents but how do I move past it? I feel so incredibly low about it and I know I should get over this but I can’t seem to be able to.

Go to another school if at all possible!
They've treated your son awfully. Are you likely to be able to trust them with him? If not another provision will probably be better.

I think that when we are dealing with very stressful problems all our emotional energy focuses on the immediate problem, it's only when we slow down as the issue subsides that the emotion hits. You say your ds2 is in a more suitable school now so at some level the problem has resolved.
I suspect you are experiencing lots of emotions relating to all aspects of your life situation (which is understandable) and its become overwhelming. Perhaps some sort of counselling would be helpful?
I hope things feel better soon.

Having been through something similar but not half as bad by the sounds of it, I understand a little bit of how you feel.
I felt sad but mostly VERY angry about it for a long time, to the point where it affected my health and I had chronic stomach pain due to stress.
I don't feel like that any more unless I dwell on it which I try not too and its easier as time passes. BUT I don't think I will EVER fully trust a school, any any other organisation, with my children again. And I'm now not afraid to tackle them when I think they're not doing the right thing.
I'm also determined to do the best for them, and have fought hard to get them both into the best school possible and to get them appropriate support. But the whole thing has basically taken over my life for the last few years, and I hate that.