When do you stop buying Christmas presents for nieces/nephews

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Is 17 too young to stop buying Christmas presents for nieces and nephews?

I ask because we're on a bit of a tighter budget this year. We're not hard up by any means, but we've got bills for our garden revamp, extension etc to pay and so we're cutting back on present budgets wherever we can, including for each other and our own kids (5 and 2).

DH's sister has 3 kids - 21, 17 and 4. We stopped buying for the 21yo last year, and we are thinking of saying to SIL that 17yo won't be getting a gift. It's very hard to buy for the older 2 - they only like designer make up like MAC and Bobby Brown, and designer clothing (even their underwear has to be Calvin Klein or they won't wear it). So the last few years we've gone down the £30 voucher route but really that doesn't buy then much for their tastes, they end up having to find at least another £30 to buy a single thing they like, which has been commented on before. So we can't even try and get away with a cheaper present!

We will still buy the 4yo a present. SIL always buys ours, but in fairness from birth we've bought all of hers too.

Is it the height of tightness to say no presents for the older 2? I've only ever dealt with young children and I am yet to enter the arena of Christmas present politics 🙈

21 as from 18-21 they might be apprentices/students/in a junior job

I think the tricky thing is you bought for the older one until they were 20, so I'd say you've already set the bar for when you stop buying. £30 is more than enough, in fact its very generous! Are they spent more than that on your children? You need to say that you will be spending £30 and you don't want them spending more than that on your children.

In our family we all know that for nieces and nephews it is a ball park £20 budget for everyone

We stop at 18.

I would buy something from Mac at Debenhams (currently 15% off) for around £20. Tesco also have £25 Odeon vouchers with 15% off... birthday and Christmas!

I've switched to buying a family present instead of presents for each individual, so I haven't really stopped buying for my nephew as he is still part of the family.

We still buy for my sister's dc who are 19, 20 and 21 but we spend less than we did when they were little (£20-30now). They are with us on Christmas day so it would feel odd to not get them anything , especially now they get us gifts in return!

Wtf, I use expensive makeup but could definitely find a quality item for £30. MAC lip liners, lipsticks primers etc would all be less than that. Plus even if I was spending hundreds i'd still be happy to get £30 off! I do think though if you stopped at 21 for one then it should be the same age for the others but spend only what you can afford.

We stopped all relatives and godchildren at 18. Some were at uni and still skint but we no longer saw them regularly and some were working so no longer needed money as they had.

We stop at 18, or when they leave home. Whichever happens first!

Quick question: for those of you who stop at 18/21 etc - do you buy/still buy their parents (your sibling/BIL/SIL) Christmas presents? SIL still insists on buying adults presents/expecting in return when really a box of chocolates would do if she felt she had to buy something.

We had stopped adult presents years before as so many dc in our big family. So as dc get to 21 no more presents for tthat family. Still have lots of younger ones to buy for. I will be 75 before l will be finished buying.
After 21 its a graduation present and of course a wedding present..thats it.

We didn't stop at 21 here, but that's because neices and nephews started buying presents for uncles and aunts when they were 21.

I stopped buying for neices and nephews and friends kids when they stopped saying Thankyou for their gifts.

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We stop sibling adult presents once the sib has their own children. There is one sibling who is single and childless, he still gets gifts from everyone

We stop at 18 as well

On occasion we have stopped when the youngest is 18 if they are close in age

But again if you stopped with the eldest at 21 thats what we would do

(One side of our family stopped doing presents well before any of my children were 18... but thats apparently because they dont think presents are important, well no, not if your kids are the ones still getting a present )

We still buy for the 21 year olds in our family and have no intention to stop but if they behaved like your family I'd have stopped because that is rude and ridiculous. We also have a small budget and spend time choosing something we know they'll like and appreciate within our budget. If we want to buy them something a bit more expensive then we spend a bit less on their parents or birthday present.

If you decide to keep doing it you might get a designer brand gift in TK MAX for less than £30

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Over the years we cut down on family presents, so we buy a token gift for both dada but nothing for brothers and partners

one brother we stopped buying for when his children were over 18 and the other still has young children...but that wasn't planned

We are the ones with the older kids but as they are in full time Ed (college and university) they get gifts still. I've asked for no vouchers because as much as relatives like the idea they are not money, and we are grateful for the thought, it's awkward to have several of £10 from different shops none enough to really buy anything. As they are at university and about to go we suggested cash/amazon/Tesco vouchers only. I ended up buying dd1's M&S £50 voucher off her last year as she was so shocked at the prices, she shops in primark for her underwear!

I would be tempted to stop giving if the voucher is not enough to buy anything with.

Or maybe give a very small non money gift. Favourite food or something like that as they are grown up.

Stop at 18 here- with token large bar of chocolate to open so that they still have something. If they have a favourite chocolate, that will be what they get.

I was wondering exactly this. We have a “no adult presents” rule. However, we don’t usually all get together at Christmas. Because we are this year, we are doing “small adult presents” instead, which nicely circumvents the fact that my eldest nephew has just been 18. I can guarantee that DSis would put the case for why he should continue receiving presents from me, largely based on her giving my dc presents, and completely ignoring that I gave her dc presents for several years before mine were born.

Birthday presents definitely stop at 18, with something engraved.

I cant imagine stopping buying my niece a present, she's my immediate family and I love her. She's 24 and will always get a present and she gets us presents in return. Would just be horrible to leave her out. because she had reached 17. I notice this is your DH niece and you don't sound like you like her very much. I wonder if you would have to cut back for your garden revamp if it was your own family!

My DC and their cousins are all in their early twenties now. I buy presents for all of them because we're a close family and meet up for at least a whole day every Christmas. There are 17 of us. My budget is small but I look for amusing presents and they are always appreciated.

21 cut off for nieces and nephews, £20 secret santa for dh family, no sibling gifts by agreement with my sibs.. works well