Ex husband visiting my parent for lunch

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AIBU to feel put out by my ex visiting my parents at their house after 10 years? In a nutshell I left ex 10 years ago gone through an unpleasant divorce lots of anger and demands/restrictions from ex. Over years just ignored each other but never crossed paths until big family party this year (kids together) everyone was on good form from hellos to small chats! First time for both sides in 10 years! My side amicable some of his side didn't come because I would be there! Anyway I found out this weekend by someone else in the family that my ex visited my parents - I didn't know!! and finding out feels like a betrayal I'm all for politeness, keeping amicable and small talk but going around houses just feels like an invasion! Don't know what to think - bewildered

I would feel the same. An acrimonious divorce, no contact for 10 years - except for this recent event, there’s no reason your parents need to open the door to a relationship with your ex. I’d be hurt. You do need to say something so it first go further.

I had almost the same thing 20 years ago. But think along presents...Xmas / Birthday / Easter....you name it, my mother bought it for him. I was furious. Same thing as you, in that I didn't find out for about 3 years. Ashamed to say I shouted at my mum big time, but at least she stopped. Feel your frustration

I'd be absolutely the most pissed off ever. They didn't tell you, presumably? What were they thinking?! Did they invite him? Why?

They didn't tell me it's reached me through the grapevine and I have since spoken to other family members (sister) and she confirmed! I am about a week behind hearing this news! God knows how it's been left as in extended invite/next time? Agree need to speak to parents to make them aware of how I feel and plan too! Can only express my feelings I guess!

Ok going to get flamed here.
I got rid of ex. And kept his mum..
Yeah I visit exchange gifts and love her dearly...
Went to hers on holiday as well.