To think this isn't normal?

[SoCockneyItHurts]

I'll keep this brief but I'm feeling so fed up today. I'm ill....again, the last 2 weeks have been pretty horrendous with one thing or another (DD had miscarriage the EPRC), I'm "trying" to Home Educate my son who is chronically ill, I've bitten off more than I can chew with regards to studying a degree and running a half marathon (don't ask). I do have a husband but he's incredibly unsympathetic when I'm unwell......makes me feel like a lepper as he doesn't want to get "diseased" (his words). I don't work and am not made to (as my husband keeps reminding me). I had a BIG cry to my husband this morning saying how I feel so fed up with things of late and how I'm really worried about our daughter etc and he just passes me a tissue and tells me to blow my nose.....no hugs, no "there there everything will be ok".....nothing. Just a reminder of the fact that I took on all these extra things (degree etc) and the fact that I don't have to work. Just feel so shit and wondering if this is normal behaviour?? All I want is a hug :(

It sounds like everything is getting too much for you. Do you have anyone a bit more sympathetic to speak to? even venting can help sometimes.

You've taken on too much so one or two things have to go.
If your son is too chronically ill for school won't the Ed Authority provide a tutor?
I sympathise that you're feeling uncared for right now but your DH is probably at a loss at how to cope with you.

Tbh you really have taken on too much! Home educating D's, doing a degree AND training for a half marathon!? On top of all the usual housework stuff, Christmas fast approaching...

What are you trying to prove?

And if you want a hug, just go and get one. I stretch out my arms to dp, and job done! The hug is given!

It sounds like you have a lot on. My husband is like that too and its bloody annoying . Now I just say shut up and give me a hug - works better.

He won't hug me because I'm ill. If I don't go ahead with what I've signed up for I'll feel like a failure. I'm always starting things and then giving up and I want to prove that I can actually do it. Plus the marathon is to raise money for a small charity that does research into my son's illness and I'll feel awful if I let them down too

The thing that stands out for me is the HE. You say you're "trying" to home educate fyour son, so it doesn't sound like it was a positive choice. If there are medical reasons he can't be in school HE really isn't your only choice and the LA should still be providing an education.

If you're struggling with it, removing that responsibility might improve things all round.

So Cockney you come on here to ask for advice, and we give it but you've got an answer for everything as to why it can't happen. No wonder DH is rapidly losing sympathy! You do have to bite the bullet and stop trying to do too much, or you really are going to be ill!

Think of yourself first not what other people think of you. Nobody will mind if you don’t do the run. You shouldn’t be doing too much exercise anywayif you are unwell. I think the reason you are always starting things and not finishing them is because you are taking on too much. Home educating a child is a big thing and to do a degrees as well is just too much for one person. Look after yourself first