2 year funding

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It's about my sister again. I recently came out of work due to bipolar episode and I claim sickness benefits and my partner claims Carers for me. We are entitled to the 2 year funding for childcare for my DS2. I've just signed him up to a nursery and he starts his 15 hours in January.

Upon telling my sister this she thinks it's wrong that as non working parents we get this funding. She thinks it's lazy as we don't need childcare. I want DS to mix with other children, as only so much mixing you can do at a playgroup.

After her rant, I'm seriously considering not letting him start nursery. What do you think I should do? AIBU or is my sister?

Your sister.

YABU to listen to your sister.

This is none of her business. You are entitled to use it, then use it. Your sister has absolutely no business getting involved in this or your decisions to raise your child.

It's not intended as childcare, the whole point is to get him socialising, mixing with other kids. Ignore her.

Send your child to nursery it is basically 2 years preschool your sister is talking nonsense stop telling her things.

She’s an idiot.

Of course she's wrong it's to help your ds socialise and gain from a different setting not childcare.

And I say that as someone who has a two-year-old in nursery with an £800 bill most months I don't begrudge you that I just keep going until he is three and we get his funded hours

It's for the benefit of the child, not the parents.

It's not childcare, it is for his development, because studies have shown children from under privileged backgrounds have certain disadvantages

Suggest to your sister that she has your disability and all that comes with it, and you have her job.

She is the one that is being unreasonable. Your child is entitled to go to nursery and it benefits her development and the family as a whole.

What do you think is best for your child? Do that, not what your sister thinks.

If you have bipolar it will prbably do you and your child the world of good to have some steady childcare in place. He will socialise, have somewhere secure to go if you are struggling, and you both will be able to build a support network.

It's for the benefit of the child, does them good to mix with other children and nursery will have a great deal more toys/activities etc than you can at home.
Helps get them ready for school as they get used to hanging their coat on their peg, sitting with everyone for story / song time, sitting at table etc.
If you've got a nursery that offers the 2year funding, take it. Many nurseries here prefer to fill spaces with paying parents as the funding isn't enough, so the popular nurseries with waiting lists simply won't take 2 year funding tots.

It's not childcare its socialization.

Thanks all, you've reassured me! I shouldn't listen to her and I'm going to do what's best for my DS and send him to nursery.

Definitely don’t listen to your sister

My dd qualifies for the 2 year funding as she gets dla because she’s epileptic. She was classed as behind with her speech and a lot of other things in September when she had her 2 year check with the health visitor

And since she’s started nursery, the difference in her is amazing. She gets to interact with other children. Her speech has come on leaps and bounds

It was 100% the right decision for her and I’m sure it will be for your little boy too xx

Stop telling your sister your private business.