People faffing around when you're giving them a lift home?

[Clothrabbit]

AIBU to find this really annoying. I have a couple of friends who, when I offer to give them a lift home from some kind of activity, spend ages faffing around and delaying and I end up getting home way later than I expected.

AIBU to think if someone is giving you a lift you fit in with them as much as possible and make sure you're ready when they want to leave?

YADNBU!

YANBU.

Are you firm with them? I would say "I have to leave in 10 minutes, I can't be any later, I'm afraid if you're not ready I won't be able to wait.

Very rude of them!

Just say "Sorry, I need to leave. No problem if you would like to find another ride home but I need to leave now". Then actually leave.

Some people faff regardless of the situation. My mum drove me nuts deciding to sit down and type out letters 'for you to drop in to the postbox' (2 miles away) when I went out for a walk. 30m later, I barely felt like bothering, but had to practically sprint to make the collection.

In fact, two Christmasses ago, she made us sit in teh car whilst she wrote late cards for people who'd sent them to her unexpectedly (not brief well wishes but full updates). Absolutely zero concept of other's time, though strangely prompt for buses, trains etc

The guy across the road who doesnt drive does this. His 'lifts' sit outside bipping their horns. Surly if someone is coming to get you are a practically on the door step waiting. He so scruffy and never brushes his hair so I've no idea why he is delayed.

Don't offer the offenders a lift next time. Yes, it is annoying, and they should make some attempt to keep to the time you wanted to leave, or else say they will make their own way.

I think, if the "liftee" has previous form, you may need to set up a reason for leaving promptly, and stick to it!
I offended a work colleague doing this (teacher at the same school) who would see me packing up to leave, ask for a lift (no problem) and then get sidetracked.........until I genuinely couldn't hang about one evening; DF was going to a masonic, wanted to drink during the evening so wanted to travel up to town by train, and I was taking him to the station, and he had to be there by a certain time.
She was very huffy the next day, but I was amused when I realised she was "punishing" me by never asking for a lift again; apparently, the joy of her company on the way home should more than compensate for having my time frittered away hanging around.
Make it clear that you're happy to help, but (insert good reason relevant to your life) you'll be off in X minutes. And go.

Chethang he'll be in bed till his lift turns up !!! I don't think I'd bother if I was one of his "lifts". It must drive you mad!

Thanks. I have got a bit firmer with one of them, and will have to be a bit more assertive with the other. They're both really nice people in every other way.

YANBU.

I give a woman a lift to and from our bookclub. She lives near me so it's not a big deal.

Or it wouldn't be if she'd just bloody leave when our meeting is over. Instead she hangs around, insisting on helping to wash the cups and saucers (despite whoever hosted insisting no, they'd rather do it themselves/have a dishwasher), putting her head around the sitting room door to say hello to any husband or kids in there watching telly, then decides she needs the loo etc etc.

Everyone else is long gone and I'm still standing there with my car key in my hand wishing she'd get a bloody move on.

If they are good friends and lovely otherwise, it is probably best to be clear by saying something like 'I'm happy to do the driving as long as there is no faffing about after the event and we can set off home promptly'.

They may not realise that you are not enjoying the socialising afterwards.