To buy my own bedding

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Staying at PIL’s for the week. MIL has a recent obsession with horrible polyester bed linen. I slept terribly last time we were here and had really itchy skin, same again this time. Have just realised it’s the hideous bedding. It’s scratchy, smells weird and I itch all over. I’m a side sleeper but having to lay one back as can’t bare to put my face against it, it feels so hard and scratchy. AIBU to go out and buy my own bedding today?

Yabu. I wouldn't tell her though.

If new it may be the formaldehyde. Wash it first.

Claim allergies and buy your own, thats what I would do.

You could say you are used to your own pillow and duvet and bring them next time.

However I've not come across polyester bedding - years ago I remember nylon stuff, horrible, from Brentford nylons but in recent years it is polyester and cotton, some have more cotton than others and they are OK.

Don't offend them over it though, not worth it.

Can you do it without offending her?. Ideally say something like ‘I’ll bring our own sheets to save you doing the washing’ or if that’s too awkward just change the sheets to your own & then change them back when you leave.

Difficult not to offend in this situation, but I wouldn't be able to sleep on polyester either so I don't blame you OP. Could you soften the blow and say you think the bedding is beautiful but you've realised you can only sleep in your own sheets? How often do you stay with her, because if it is fairly infrequent it may be best not to cause an argument

Just pack a sheet and chuck it over the pillows and top of bed, remove it when you get up.

You need to introduce MIL to the wonders of high thread count 100% cotton bedding. She's obviously not a Mumsnetter is she?

DP often takes his own bedding places because he has very sensitive skin and most hotel/apartment bedding sets it off - I assume it is due to some sort of industrial strength washing detergent. Perhaps you could claim a similar sensitivity to avoid offending her re bedding choices?

Wouldn't it be politer to say you've developed allergies to a lot of different detergents so you've brought your begging from home as you know it won't bring you out in a rash? Tell them on the day so there's no offering to wash their bedding in a suitable detergent, make sure you say the only one your skin can tolerate is one they are unlikely to use eg suitable for babies etc

I have similar issues with mil bedding. Am hoping that its only because she didn't wash it in no bio otherwise im buggered for christmas. Thankfully do have excuse of ds and his sensitive skin for insisting on no bio to be used on things he uses. If this doesn't work am bringing my own pillow and throw and blaming the car journey 😀