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Shall I de-facebook-friend?

29 replies

Streambeam · 26/11/2018 01:42

Bit of late night facebook browsing. Seen that a one-time friend (travelled together, haven’t spoken in 3+ years) is now a lawyer for virgin care. She’ll be earning way over 100K.
I am horrified, Virgin care sued the NHS last year!! Shall I de-friend her out of disappointment or would that be unreasonable?

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ChristmasSprite · 26/11/2018 01:45

U, r u sure?!?!? Quite a lot of twaddle really

Aquamarine1029 · 26/11/2018 01:47

Why are you even on Facebook? That's the real question.

spacefighter · 26/11/2018 01:49

Cuckoo, cuckoo.

Original poster
Streambeam · 26/11/2018 01:50

Ha! Well I suppose it is a lot of twaddle but it’s 1:30am and I can’t sleep! Grin So. Am I being unreasonable?

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Streambeam · 26/11/2018 01:50

Cuckoo?

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SuchAToDo · 26/11/2018 01:53

Is this for real?..you would defriend someone because of the actions of their clientShock

You sound unhinged

ILoveHumanity · 26/11/2018 01:58

Indeed cuckoo

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Streambeam · 26/11/2018 01:59

Well, maybe?! Not her client though, her employer.
I’m actively involved in raising money and support for the NHS so when I realised that part of her role involves stripping it of funds, I am... disappointed.

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Runbikeswim · 26/11/2018 02:04

Yeah maybe, unless you can separate her from the actions of her employer

ChristmasSprite · 26/11/2018 02:05

Yeah, but you won't be her friend anymore because of it? Or are you here to raise the profile of the issue? (Which is fine and food to do, just start a thread of that instead)

You're going to stop having anything to do with her as a result? Are u really?

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Streambeam · 26/11/2018 02:14

Well I haven’t spoken to her in years, I don’t think she’d even notice tbh.
I just wondered if others would considerbit reasonable grounds or not. Most so far seem to think not!

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BlancheM · 26/11/2018 02:14

Barking.

BlancheM · 26/11/2018 02:16

Unfriend her by all means though, no one has to be fb friends with anyone. It's not going to teach anyone a lesson, it's really not that deep.

SuchAToDo · 26/11/2018 02:20

If you haven't spoken in 3 years you are hardly friends anymore...in this day and age with email, mobile phones, text messaging, whatsapp, Facebook, twitter, Skype etc there's no excuse for not keeping in touch...even a message takes seconds to type and send...if you both haven't kept in touch then you can't have much of a friendship to start with

What is it you hope to achieve by defending her?..you can't expect her to give up her job or something like that...you are absolutely unreasonable....you do realise that when people sue a person, or a company or even the nhs, the courts comb through evidence and money is only awarded if there is a valid claim...so if money was taken from nhs there must have been a valid reason for suing..

ChristmasSprite · 26/11/2018 02:21

It's not really very pleasant or polite to defriend someone unless they are proper enemies, and done something worthy of such treatment.
I just can't believe you have posted to ask this!

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Streambeam · 26/11/2018 02:29

Sorry to have shocked! I thought I might possibly be being unreasonable, hence the question!

Well I wouldn’t expect her to give up her job, just a bit surprised she applied for it in the first place. She’s been with several magic circle firms, I daressy she has options? She’s a talented lawyer.

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steff13 · 26/11/2018 02:34

Was the lawsuit valid?

Aquamarine1029 · 26/11/2018 02:34

It's time to grow up. Perhaps the NHS deserved to be sued. This hasn't occured to you? In your world they should be held above reproach? Again, grow up.

PrettyPurplePanda · 26/11/2018 02:43

Streambeam Do what I did with my Facebook, I used to have over 300 friends, family/family friends/school friends/college friends/hobby friends/ect, I simply removed everyone, I didn't get any messages asking why so clearly it didn't bother anyone as I only kept close friends and family which dwindled it down to about 20 odd, I no longer use the Facebook website but I keep it for the messenger app, It's a good back up in case I can't text or call because of poor signal but still can access the internet.

Monty27 · 26/11/2018 02:48

Do you have any interesting observations in your life? Confused

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Streambeam · 26/11/2018 02:48

Yes perhaps it is time for a friend purge on fb anyway.

No idea if the NHS ‘deserved’ to be sued, I guess legally speaking it must have, but morally speaking is it right that public money is spent fighting off for profit companies?

www.independent.co.uk/news/health/nhs-richard-branson-virgin-care-legal-settlement-tendering-contract-a8080961.html

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SuchAToDo · 26/11/2018 03:02

No idea if the NHS ‘deserved’ to be sued, I guess legally speaking it must have, but morally speaking is it right that public money is spent fighting off for profit companies

So you are about to befriend her iver something you don't even know the full facts about,

And yes if the claim is valid then they should of course be sued...like previous poster has said, the nhs shouldn't be above the law...if they have made mistakes that has caused lifelong harm to someone or their mistakes has caused someone to die etc then of course they should have to answer for what they have done, the victims of their mistakes have to live with it every day so why shouldn't the nhs have to account for its mistakes

And if the courts didn't find the case valid they wouldn't award money, so obviously there is enough evidence for it to be valid...

So before you judge your friend, you might want to step back and reconsider...

SuchAToDo · 26/11/2018 03:03

"over

SuchAToDo · 26/11/2018 03:03

*defriend

paintinmyhairAgain · 26/11/2018 06:34

you haven't spoken in 3 years ? let her go she won't notice and probably wouldn't care anyway. can't think why some people are slating you for wanting to drop her given the fact you two don't keep in touch.