AIBU or is my other half a dickhead ?

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I'm fed up being called U by my OH. In fact I was also Called a bully, rude, foreign and variety of other names.

Apparently I'm BU because I demand he does his share of household duties. We both work full time, where I always leave before and come back similar time or later. Every day for the last 2 years I have to get the little one sorted in the morning, bed time and if he wakes up at night. I cook 80% of the time, clean up 90%, do 99% of clothes washing. Sick and fucking tired.So I'm rude because I tell him to tidy up rather than asking politely. I'm UB because I expect him to help with his child but most people he spoke to apparently say it's usually the mums job (yes I flipped my shit at that) and he needs to get ready for work so he cannot do it. Oh wait a minute, I do too?! So AIBU or do I get rid this waste of space?

He will likely have your DS at his mum's so she can do the work and he may have time playing.

I wouldn't worry.

@1cantpickaname
Same here... he wanted DS to go football. He then got annoyed that DS doesn't understand how to kick a ball at the age of 18months (where other boys did - you could see that their dads spent time with their kids but my OH won't even take him to the park ) and left me to take him every weekend

@PsychedelicSheep yes I'm not from Uk. In fact he gets angry that o teach DS my language. So ignorant. Also worried about him stopping me traveling with DS. Don't really want a bitter fight in courts

He's a dickhead and you are both better off away from him.
Good luck x

He's a dickhead and you are both better off away from him.
Good luck x

Fucker needs to learn some manners, OP. Don't see why it should be your job to teach him, though.

Without reading past your 1st post if you're calling him a waste of space, I think you are at the point to leave him.

If you stay...your son will learn some damaging lessons

He is only 2...perfect time to end this farce before he learns that daddies treat mumies like shit

Oh god I was hoping it may have been a typo! What a fucking racist piece of shit he is of course your son should learn your language, it's the perfect time when he's young.

You should absolutely leave him he sounds utterly vile.

Look, your son will be far better off not living with this vile piece of shit. You might not even have to go through the courts, I can't imagine he'd actually want to have to look after him (though he'll probably threaten it, and say you're mental, it's in the script), so the chances of him having your son are quite low, and as a pp pointed out, even if he does, he'll get his mum to do all the work, and she won't want anything bad to happen to her grandchild.

So, don't let that fear stop you from doing the right thing, and kick him out. But this time, don't let him back. Whatever he "promises" are lies.

Thanks all. I will start sorting out the financial options and give him till xmas to sort himself out as don't really want to destroy everyone's Christmas. Things do need to change or he needs to go.

OP I'm not sure what you anticipate him achieving 'change wise' by Christmas but it's your deadline, I hope you too use the time to yourself time to plan and execute you're ridding yourself of this drain on your lives lovely