To be upset that this woman tried to embarrass me?

[Amazona24]

I'm apart of a team hobby, we are competing together next year. I've loved the hobby so far and the team, really like the people in it and no bitchyness.
That is until this morning, I walked in and most of the girls were there and I said hi to everyone. I went to change my shoes and one of the girls who is in the team but also a coach said to me "I've been hearing alot about you" I replied and said oh really who from? She said a girl who I knew from years ago who I had been out drinking with her when I was younger. I asked what she had said and in front of everyone loudly she went "Well I heard you like to dance around naked". I was so embarrassed and thought it was highly inappropriate of her to say that in front of everyone. Also I weren't dancing around naked. I was in a hotel room trying to get my dress off which had got stuck and I had my knickers on. So the story was wrong and she just tried to make me look silly in front of everyone.
Everyone erupted into laughter and was saying what??? So I said that's not how it was I was in a hotel room and not dancing around. She then just walked off.
I made a comment and said I don't know why she felt the need to say that and a few others agreed.
Sorry its long but wanted to give the whole story. Aibu to be upset and the fact she tried to make me look silly in front of everyone?

I hate things like this.

Who hasn’t done something silly when young and or drunk?

You kind of expect people to leave that kind of thing in the past when you all become adults.

Hope you are ok.

That was completely inappropriate.

What a cowbag! YANBU!

I absolutely HATE the 'I know someone who used to know you' power play. It never results in fun, flattering or admirable stories being shared and is just an off-shoot of shitty bullying behaviours.

It's not even like I can't laugh at myself because I can but it's not like I'm close to her or the other women in the group so made me uncomfortable. It was her tone of voice too, had a bitchy tone to it and if she really wanted to bring it up she could have done it one on one. No idea where it came from as she's always been nice to me.

bunny funny thing is a few weeks ago we were talking about bullying and I said how I don't like bullies and so were others. This girl said she was badly bullied at high school and ended up not going to prom because of it. I was so sympathetic with her and said how horrible that was. And then she goes and does that today

She was being a bitch, after spending a drunken evening with someone who was taking the piss out of you for whatever reason. At least now you all know what she's likely.

Quietly remind her of what she said about being bullied ... or tell her you didn't appreciate her tone. She sounds nasty to do that in front of everyone.

what a nasty cow OP, don't let her do that again

I agree with everyone else. She was out of order.

Was she definitely trying to make you look stupid? Wasn't she deiberately making it sound funny, knowing that it was perfectly innocent, and that you or she would explain a second later how it was totally innocent - and that no-one listening would even think it likely in the first place that you would really do that?

My ex and I used to tell people that we had "met in his bed" to make them laugh at this cheeky image - and then when they laughed we'd explain that actually he'd been away for several weeks and his flatmate said I could use his bedroom - but he didn't know I was there when he came back in the night.

If this woman doesn't know you at all, she shouldn't have assumedid just think you'd join in with the joke and didn't consider that you might find it embarrassing?

oops, paste fail: she shouldn't have assumed you would enjoy it, but maybe she thought you'd join in?

I'd be having a word about how extremely inappropriate she was and how you've discussed bullying recently so why did she think this was something to bring up in public? The woman who told her is clearly a monumental bitch.

No really, that is just so bloody unnecessary. She's the type with no filter, thinks she's hilarious and loves embarrassing people. That's the kind of funny story you share on a girls night out among close friends who all know you. It's not something anyone, especially a relative stranger who knows someone who knows you, drops like a stink bomb with no context into a group you are acquainted with but who don't know you well enough to have familiarity with your general demeanor and character.

If she does it again you should just smile mysteriously and say 'Do carry on with stories about my misspent youth - as long as you don't mind me sharing what Mutual Friend told me about you!"
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You are completely justified being upset but its worth taking it as a compliment! She is quite clearly jealous of you. People try and humiliate other people when they want to make them look bad as they are jealous of them and want to make themselves feel superior. I'm sure everyone sees through what she is trying to do. Ignore ignore move on and forget.

What a bitch, I'd go right upto her next week and stare right hard in her eyes and say do anything like that again and I'll knock your teeth out.

Well ribbon I recently found out that my best friend knows the girl who I went out with in my younger days. She now teaches my best friends daughter. Apparently I came up in conversation again! This girl clearly likes talking about me and apparently hates the girl who said this at my hobby- they are sister in laws. I distanced myself from the girl in my younger years for a reason (bitchy) and she is friends with someone who bullied me too. So there is no way this story was told in a jokey manner they were clearly bitching about me. No idea why the girl at my hobby joined in because I thought we got along

You shoulda owned it, I'd have pretended I danced naked and was proud!

I would have burst out laughing at the sheer ridiculousness of the idea. Which would probably have taken the wind out if her sails. If she tries it again, laugh and say "oh dear, you didn't actually believe that did you....?"

Really wish I had a come back now but she catch me so off guard and with everyone laughing I'm not good with those situations!

*caught

Oh lordy, this sort of thing would be a nightmare for me as in my uni days I definitely went out and got drunk and did a lot of stuff that I’m not particularly proud of. I had such a good laugh though. As a pp suggested, maybe try and own it like you’re not embarrassed in the slightest. If it comes up again, look wistfully into the distance and say “ahh, those were the days” and give her a smile. And then distance yourself from her.

The original woman telling all these stories about you sounds a bit obsessed. Maybe she’s jealous?

Stop giving it headspace. The others agreed it was an odd thing for her to say, so just carry on going and ignore her. Maybe she intended as a bit of a tease, but it went spectacularly wrong...who knows.

wonder well the original woman telling this story I haven't seen her in about 6/7 years! She knows the old me pre child. I've changed alot since then. Everyone makes a idiot of themselves when drunk and young so don't know why it was made into such a point of interest!
If she does something like this again I will say something to her privately. Embarrassing someone in front of a group isn't my style!