AIBU to worry that my husband is convinced I'm lying when I'm not?

[Beelzebop]

Had a silly row, well dh had a go at me for a supposed sin that I have committed. He is really very grumpy about this thing I haven't done. Apparently he knows when I'm lying , I'm not by the way. And as far as he's concerned it wouldn't matter what I say. He is now giving me the silent treatment. This bothers me. It means that he really has no clue about me doesn't it?

It means he is abusing you emotionally.

What sort of behaviour is the ‘silent treatment’ ?
Why does he get to decide if you are worthy of being spoken to ?

How does that make you feel ?
(And more importantly, how does it make you feel that your husband is doing that to you. On purpose.)

It’s gaslighting to tell you ‘I know when you are lying’ bevause he is making out he knows you better than you know yourself. Even though you know you aren’t lying - I bet you’ve second guessed yourself somewhere.

As harsh as this might sound - this is emotional abuse. And it will escalate. Other posters will agree.

I hope you are ok anyway. People will tell you to leave but in this moment right now, sometimes you just need someone to say - I know how this feels, and it’s not nice. You deserve better.

People who baselessly accuse others of lying are usually the ones hiding something.

This is manipulative and I agree if he does things like this often it's emotionally abusive. People can get the wrong end of the stick, but if you've explained and he still doesn't believe you, he either doesn't trust you or he''s trying to manipulate you into acting a certain way (doing something to probe yourself to him for example)

I agree he is being an arse but emotional abuse?....... oh dear. How melodramatic.
Just tell him to shut up and ignore.

Prove yourself!

You really need to flip this on its head beelz. There is silence. OK. You are giving him the silent treatment because he falsely accused you. Not the other way round. Make damn sure he knows that you are blanking him not the other way round.

Take your time about being ready to talk to him again. How much begging and nicey nicey please give me crumbs does he normally expect from you? Right back at him.

Or LTB, life's too short to waste on dating Kevin the Teenager.

Well why does he think you are lying? Is there any particular evidence that would lead him to believe that.

Right, so he's claiming I smoked his cigarettes. I didn't , haven't even seen then. I have no way of proving I didn't. And I am now ignoring him. Just can't be arsed. It just made me wonder what would happen if he thought I'd done something dreadful, it also made me realize that I might as well lie all the time!

Wow. He sounds like a total bellend. Is he 12?