Thinking about leaving my partner.

[LisaDav]

Hi all,

I've been feeling depressed this last year, and here are a few reasons why.

•	Miscarriage
•	Money
•	Where we live
•	Being fat
•	My teeth
•	Having no friends
•	Family arguments
•	Stressed (job related)

I've not spoken to my partner much about them because everytime we speak about them he thinks nothing of them.
Today he asked how I'm feeling and I just told him that I'm feeling depressed, listed off the reasons why, and he pretty much laughed in my face. I cried and we shouted, and he said "you're embarrassed! You're an embarrassment to people who really suffer from depression! You really deserve a slap".

For the record he's never hit me, but I'm hurt, I'm fuming! To him, this has all come out the blue because I don't speak to him about it. I've told him he should think about why I don't talk to him about how I've been feeling.
We're currently renting and we're moving into our bought home in 6 weeks time. But now, I want to leave him. He's just not who I want to be with anymore. He's really hurt me this time! We've been together 6 years! AIBU to think about leaving him because he's reacted this way?

I don't think YABU.

He should never reacted like that, people can't help what they are depressed about and he should never have threatened to slap you.

Just a little side note though and in no way excusing him at all. My DM suffers with depression and it can be draining. Her complaining about the same things but not doing anything about it can be frustrating especially when you have to sit there listening about the same things over and over again.

However, I have and would never react like that. He shouldn't have done that.

I think you also need to look at the bigger picture aswell and see if you can get control of your depression. Have you been to the doctor?

I've don't really tell him how I feel, because I know how he reacts, I've probably spoken to him about it once or twice in the last 12 months.
I have been to the doctor, but I'm really against taking medication for depression, I'm going to pay for some private counselling sessions.