to rant about man flu?

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Need to put this down here before I stick him under the patio! In the last 2 weeks, DD (22 months) has been hospitalised with severe croup, perked up a little, then had proper feverish, shivering flu and is still absolutely wiped out with it. Poor love’s waking loads at night with coughing, then shattered in the day. Last week, DH and I both went down with a nasty cold. He insists it’s flu. The GP (who he wasted an appointment for against my advice to take a lemsip instead) and I have both said “yes it’s a nasty cold, but you just need to ride it out.

The fucker’s taken to his bed for the last week!!! Never mind that we both have a daughter who needs caring for (and you know, who is actually measurably, hospitalisable, ill). Never mind that I have the exact same thing, but am still cooking all the meals, getting up in the night with DD etc.

The bastard insists on groaning “ohhhh, I just can’t believe the muck coming out of my lungs”. That would be snot, the very normal consequence of a cold. The GP listened to his chest, it’s clear, he’s just being pathetic.

He is literally doing nothing.

Surely this is reasonable grounds for divorce?

If he were to die round about now, it wouldn’t raise much suspicion because he’s so ill.

Just saying.

Surely this is reasonable grounds for divorce?

By mumsnet standards probably.

I can't imagine it would go down well on here if we reversed the situation and it was a husband moaning about his wife's menstrual cramps or suchlike. Colds can make you feel pretty wretched.

But op has the same thing! He's being selfish and pathetic.

Maybe it's hit him harder. I've seemingly got an iron immune system and often only suffer for a few days when my friends are knocked out for a week. However, I agree that some people are just massive drama queen about being ill.

You are most definitely not being unreasonable. My husband has had a bad cold for the last week- not flu- just a bad cold and every day I've had to listen to minute by minute updates of which body part hurts the most, what colour his mucus is and how he's never ever been this I'll before! This week will forever be know as the week of himfluenza.

I think waxy got it spot on!

He might genuinely feel worse. A couple of winters ago when Norovirus was doing the rounds, me entire workplace ended up going down with it one after the other. All off nearly a week each. I was back in 2 days, having thrown up once and more or less recovered in under 24 hours. Chances are good that we all had the same virus but my immune system is a beast when it comes to sickness bugs. I hardly ever catch them and if I do, I bounce back quickly. Colds drag on forever though. People are different.

Presumably he actually perceives himself as feeling really ill, unless you're trying to suggest he's actually lying. Some people do seem to feel a lot more ill with colds than others. I don't think I've ever felt really ill with a cold, one of my adult DSs is often wiped out (can't sleep and then knackered to the point of feeling faint in the day). I'm sorry it has happened at a time when your DD has been so ill and you have extra responsibilities, but having seen how my DS gets, I don't think you have much choice but to let him rest - he'll be like this for even longer if you don't.