To think MiL is weird?

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Dd is approaching 3 and has been potty trained since she was just 2.
She can pretty much manage on her own now unless she’s wearing tights and then she still needs help.
MiL was here and I was upstairs when dd needed a wee (tights days). She was calling for me and MiL was going ‘I will take you, you don’t need mummy’ but dd didn’t want MiL to help her she wanted me.
Afterwards MiL was quite put out and said ‘I’ve never seen dd on the toilet and I wanted to help her’. Wtf? When dd used to use the potty MiL would ask to see it before I emptied it away. Also wtf?!

This is MN, she's a MIL. Of course she's weird.

Perhaps she just wanted to see her granddaughter being all grown up using the loo.

Wanting to see her wee before it's thrown away is a bit odd though.

I assume she was put out that your daughter didn’t want to rely on her. The looking at the contents of a potty is weird tho 🤣

I think it’s weird.
She used to come and look at the potty and then comment on it!

Your daughter is carrying out a normal but very private function - it's hardly a spectator sport! She is entitled to ask for help from whomever she is comfortable with - it's about her needs, not anyone else's (rather bizarre) desire to watch the event, or indeed, comment on the contents of the potty/loo after said event has taken place!

My MIL is also obsessed with my daughter's potty habits. She wants to look at the pee and comment on it / form of the poop etc. I think it's weird.

As an experienced grandmother and great grandmother, (14 GC and 2 GGc) I can tell you she's definitely weird!

YANBU
But I knew that before reading your OP!

V odd. Your child is not a zoo animal

I can see me being described as a weird MIL in the future when the DCs are older, but I'm certainly not that weird.

Is your MiL on Mumsnet? Seems a bit of a non-issue to name-change over.

It is weird. My mil is obsessed with my son having his nappy changed and always hovers over me when I’m changing him. I hate it. Even little ones should have privacy for things like this.

That's a bit strange - unless she's an expert on wee and poo, and likes to diagnose illnesses by them, then I can't for the life of me imagine why she would want to inspect them!!

Very Strange.

Many of a certain generation were encouraged to look for certain things in their children’s urine and stools for signs of illness.
One saying is “Him pee yellow, him poor fellow. Him pee white, him alright”.
Maybe ask her her why rather than speculate.

That is bizarre, especially the wanting to see the potty before it's emptied. But then again my mom gets offended when I take DD to the bathroom to change her nappy at their house, I'm just trying to stop poo getting smeared in the carpet or the dogs trying to run off with a dirty nappy. Apparently it's because I change her upstairs at my house so they've never seen her nappy be changed and it's weird that I haven't changed it in front of them apparently .

Goodness. I never realised that nappy changing and a baby's bodily excretions were so interesting to some grandparents.

Personally, I'd rather not look at what comes out of my DGC.