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to think that there needs to be a 'rent a hug' service

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Ohshitwhatnext · 24/11/2018 20:28

Just that....a rent the hug service for people who have nobody to hug them. I was upset about something the other day and somebody gave me a hug. I've not had a hug for nearly ten years Sad

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LucyMorningStar · 25/11/2018 00:36

I can only enjoy hugs from my child. Anyone else and I feel panicked and uncomfortable.

Lallybroch · 25/11/2018 00:40

I was in Hebden Bridge last week and there was a man with a 'free hugs' sign. People were going up and getting hugs.

Flashingbeacon · 25/11/2018 00:41

I need to get off mumsnet but this has transported me right back to being a teenager aching for a hug. It can hurt to be without physical contact.

KeepServingTheDrinks · 25/11/2018 01:15

(((( )))) from me for anyone who wants or needs one.

I'm hugging a particular colleague a lot at the moment (he has cancer) and whenever I do, he says "I love physical contact". I feel very sad for him because his wife died a few years ago. Sad

Leonie87 · 25/11/2018 01:52

God no.

What if your hired hugger was some smelly weirdo that you’d avoid on the train? That would happen to me.

Someone who would work as a hired hugger is unlikely to be someone I’d want hugging me.

But then I am a bit cold.

Ohshitwhatnext · 25/11/2018 06:44

Life has been shitty for me lately and I’m counting down to my mum visiting so I can have a proper mum hug!

I hope she comes soon Smile My mum doesn't do hugs, never has done.

But surely a hug from someone you don't love is meaningless?

If it's all that is on offer it'll do.

Join a church

Unfortunately Richard Dawkins is as devout as the pope when compared to me.

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TartedUpYard · 25/11/2018 06:55

If you're near Liverpool I'll come and give you a hug.

picklemepopcorn · 25/11/2018 07:39

Re church, if you find the right one you can join in with their activities without believing anything. They probably do community work, outreach, socials etc not just services.

HowOftenDoYouClean · 25/11/2018 08:05

I know this feeling im 27 and can count the hugs ive had since being a teenager on one hand. It sucks not having any kind of human contact, in fact i stopped getting bullied 10 years ago and ive had so little human contact i still flinch if people touch me or move to quickly, probably because ive not had any kind of sentimental caring human contact.

bimbobaggins · 25/11/2018 08:12

I’m dead inside but sometimes I do appreciate a good hug so I know where you’re coming from op.
It’s just the feeling that no matter how shit things are a hug-makes it all disappear, even if it’s only for a minute

Pashazade · 25/11/2018 08:33

Hugs to you all. I am a hugger but I'm aware some people aren't. Strangest conversation I've had was asking a fellow mum (just after we'd done a kids music class) if she was a hugger as she had looked so forlorn and stressed whilst we'd been chatting I felt a hug would help. She said she was so I was able to ask if she would like a hug. Plain (non sexual) physical contact is sadly underrated in some ways.

ShotsFired · 25/11/2018 09:05

My family never did hugs when I was young so it's really awkward now, added to which I am much taller and bigger than my mum so it feels weird physically too.

I loved the hugs from my ex (making me cry a bit now!)

AmandaBuffamonteezi · 25/11/2018 09:22

@TartedUpYard I was just about to post the exact same thing! We're a friendly bunch. us scousers! Grin

Foslady · 25/11/2018 09:30

I went up to a free bigs once and almost ended in tears it was so lovely to be hugged!
I was on my own for 9 years, and hugs was what I missed more than anything

GinisLife · 25/11/2018 09:36

I go across to my neighbours when I need a hug. He gives great hugs and always knows when I need one. I'm single, he's married, absolutely nothing in it other than he gives great hugs at the right time. Very comforting.

daisypond · 25/11/2018 10:09

Hug services exist! They're often called cuddle therapy. Google them.

daisypond · 25/11/2018 10:11

Meant to add, I saw a news feature on telly about them just the other day.

FoodGloriousFud · 25/11/2018 10:37

It's strange the things you take for granted, my partner and I are very huggy, we cuddle numerous times a day. And I'm from a family of huggers... My partner found it a bit odd at first to be hugged on seeing and then leaving someone on every occasion!

PinsPegs · 25/11/2018 10:52

Ugh, I'd hate a hug from a stranger. TBH I don't like hugs, kisses or even handshakes from anyone apart from my immediate family.
I really can't stand kisses and hugs from friends. I'm warm, helpful and friendly but I do NOT want to be touched.
If someone is upset or needs a hug I'm more than happy to oblige but other than that I like to keep my distance.

BlueCookieMonster · 25/11/2018 10:58

Gosh I’d love to give a few of you a hug right now.

wondering1101 · 25/11/2018 11:00

I have just left a marriage in which there was zero affection for years, and I really missed simple things like hugs. My 3 dc all used to be huggers, and now the youngest is the only one who will still touch me Grin.

Having said that, I don’t really feel the need for hugs from anyone else. It annoys my sister who is very touchy feely, but she makes a big deal out of it and it makes me run the other way.

I was in Hebden Bridge last week and there was a man with a 'free hugs' sign. People were going up and getting hugs.

Same thing happened to me in Brussels - the man with a sign offered me a hug and I said no (politely). But I was thinking just why - on this freezing day in the middle of a square where there is a gale blowing, would I sidle up to this complete stranger. Surrounded by tourists. Why Confused.

Ohshitwhatnext · 25/11/2018 11:08

even a hug from a smelly stranger would do right now.
sadly i'm not near Liverpool, not even in the same country.

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SantaClauseMightWork · 25/11/2018 11:11

I think it is a brilliant idea. Lol

Kaybush · 25/11/2018 11:37

What a lovely idea!

🤗 Sending you a massive virtual hug OP!! 🤗

Iamtheoneandonly2018 · 25/11/2018 11:56

Ginis! What a fab neighbour! Think we should all campaign for a hugs from your neighbours thread. Anyway free hugs here for anyone who needs one ( or 2 ).

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