18 is of enough to share a taxi home at night.

[Cambalamb]

My DD is 18, goes to many parties and they now finish rather later than they used to. We are happy for her to share a can home and so is she. on of her friend's DM is not and ends up picking them up as her DD is scared. She ends up picking my DD up too as they live close. DD finds it embarrassing that I don't take turns. AIBU to think that an adult that is going to uni next year and travels about on trains to gigs in London and other cities is more than capable of travelling home by cab with friends at 1/2/3 am and that I should't feel guilty?

Sorry for many typos! Should read "old enough'.

I am with you on this; if her mother wants to pick up that's her business.

I must admit, I'm not comfortable with taxis recently and never have been especially if on my own. I always take a picture of the number plate/taxi ID and would send it to my mum (or partner now)

But in terms of age and independence, yes it is plenty old enough.

Of course they are old enough.
Old enough to be out so old enough to make their own way home.

18 is a grown adult and should be capable of getting in a taxi especially with friends.

I was travelling home by taxi at 16 as I left school and was at college (and.often went clubbing until 2am)

Taxis have changed, get them to uber home.

Yes yanbu, absolutely old enough.

Me and friend would get taxi to hers then I lived around the corner and I would stay on my phone with her until I got home.

I’d never have expected my parents to get up in the middle of the night to ferry me home. If the friend’s mum wants to then that’s fine, but if my Mum or Dad offered then I’d have said no thank you.

Nope. We have this. We're happy for our teenagers to walk home in the dark but other parents seem to have an issue with that. Interestingly, our youngest gets really annoyed as she wants the independence!

😂 I wasn't even living at home at that age. Of course you're nbu

(We’ll just skip over the fact that 17 year old self thought it was fine to walk 4 miles home in the pitch black, but I did this with friends, not alone.)

(I'm guessing spending taxi fare on a kebab, lager and black swishing around with your stilettos in your hand then walking five miles... that's gone these days)

Thank you oh wise ones. I know I'm right, just needed to hear it outside my own head!
There are 3 of them including a male. I would be a bit concerned if she was alone and would probably offer to pick her up at 12 .I am happy to give lifts at other times and have done but draw the line at after 12 and on Friday AND Saturday night.
Plus there is a rather tasty looking bottle of Merlot in the wine rack!

Maybe it's because they don't want to pay for the taxi rather than being scared and the girl just says that to manipulate her mum for free lifts?

I've just told her that if she feels guilty, she can always offer the friend's DM a fiver towards petrol or buy her some flowers!

Absolutely old enough. I'd left home by then and was living by myself (and managing to get myself home from nights out just fine in a city 120 miles away from my mum!)

Her dd is 18 an an adult, her mum is doing her no favours in preparing her for independent life. At that age I was at uni away from home, catching cabs with friends after late night parties. Your dd does not have to go with her, just say thanks but I have a taxi booked, you don't have to take turns in collecting them. What that mum does is her business.

My dd would have been mortified if we'd collected her at that age. She either got the night bus or a cab. She's at uni now and I have no idea how she gets to or from clubs or parties. A mother has to cut the apron strings at some point and 18 is that cutting age.

Maybe it's because they don't want to pay for the taxi rather than being scared and the girl just says that to manipulate her mum for free lifts?

They work part time, as does my DD and my attitude is that if you can afford a bottle of vodka to take to the party, you can pay £5 towards a £15 cab!

I think it is absolutely old enough. I also expect that the other parent does not mind at all. I often find a few others climb into the car when I pick up DD, I do not mind as they are all fairly local.

I am struggling to get my DD to get a cab home at the moment. I am still spending most Friday and Saturday nights not drinking and waiting up till gone 12.30 to pick her up. I posted about it a couple of weeks ago, there was a very mixed response from MN posters.

How old is she Blue ?

It's old enough, but of I could pick any of my DDs up, I would

My DD (34) phoned me whilst in a taxi, she just didn't feel safe.

Not long after there were three convictions for rape by taxi drivers.

If an 18 year old young Woman doesn't feel safe on her own, then it's between her and her Mum.

She's not alone in the cab. As I said, up to 12 is fine but I find it hard to stay awake after that.
I agree it's between her and her parents.