Partners ex sending him snapchats...

[Annie3907]

Posting in AIBU for some traffic really...

Long story short, me and DP been together 8 years and 6 month into our relationship we had a “break” for about 6 month after I found out he had still been sleeping with his ex. This ex continued to message over number of years and finally stopped when we had our first child

I know it’s wrong, but I’m just a paranoid person so I looked at his phone. Over the past week she has been sending him snapchats every day. I opened one of them and it was a pic of chocolates saying “this is why I’m fat” with 2 love hearts. As far as I know he doesn’t send any, I only ever see it saying “received” and he hasn’t got her as a friend either however she can still send him snaps?

As much as I know I need to address the situation I have a hell of a lot going on at the moment with poorly family members and work stress and if I can put off confronting him then I will. Should I just keep an eye on it to see how long it continues? He also works away so I checked his phone last week when he got home. Any advice?

Contact if they have a mutual friend perhaps, or to find out about someone who is being ill, would seem OK to me. What the OP describes is not.

Christ, it is sad to see women turning a blind eye to the antics of these sleazy men they are supposed to be in a "relationship" with

yellow you are still with this creep even though you have the proof of his contempt for you ? Your bar is very low

I’m sorry OP. I know it’s tough for you to do, but you need to raise with him. He instigated so he’s the one who’s trying to start something (whatever that might be) and she’s just replying. It may be innocent and he just wants to say “hello” , but why? SC is incredibly easy to use for sexting and that would be my concern

@AnyFucker I am in no way with this creep and my bar is incredibly high. Hence why I said OP would surprise herself with how strong she could be, I spoke from experience...

I'll be prepared to accept your apology for insulting me when you're ready

Glad to hear it yellow and I read your message wrongly, for sure. Please accept my apology

If you want to understand why I misread it, it was your reference to not wanting to know how far your cheater had actually gone and your plea to "stay strong" in the context of op clearly considering that burying her head in the sand was a valid option. Or you could ignore this paragraph

I’m not able to get any more hours from work unfortunately, the only childcare close to our home is fully booked until next summer.

I have decided I’m going to just keep track of everything so that when I’m ready I can provide him with the evidence I have. I have taken photos of his phone with my phone showing the snaps and I have put in my notes the days and times. He is away back to work in a couple of weeks so this gives me a good amount of time to keep checking.

Thank you for all of the replies

Accepted @AnyFucker and head in the sand would never have been my advice like I said the only way (in my opinion) is to ask him about it or else it will eat her alive. I found out all I had to find out that was enough for me to walk away and never look back. I've had my suspicions about other things but what would I gain from knowing about them, it's in the past and my now almost 6 and almost 3 year old are on top of the world as are their mummy!

Hope you have a nice chilled Sunday @AnyFucker apologies on my part for any misunderstanding (and sensitivity!) on my part.

OP I hope you get things sorted soon, I do think you should just be upfront and speak to him about it, best of luck