Weekends

[Justkeeepsmiling]

Hi all, AIBU to ask what everyone does at the weekends? I have a DS 10, Never really do much, DS sometimes has friends round, I do the housework. We sometimes do a food shop. Thats it, Thats as exciting as it gets. I have no family local and all my friends are coupled up. I struggle to keep my mind busy, and its starting to get me down, and I worry that it has an effect on my DS too. he does moan that he is bored too, I struggle to think of things to do with him. Its now 12.54pm, everything that needs doing has been done, and Im just staring out the window, i truely think its sending me crazy. Any tips?

Cinema, bowling, trip to a museum or a long walk. Depending on where you live it's sometimes nice to.pretend you are tourists because I think you can forget or take for granted things your area has to do when you live there.

have you got a park near you? you could go on a walk, or on bikes if you have them. i sometimes do some baking, and let the kids help.

all the best x

Garden centres are nice this time of year for the lights and decorations.

Before offering unrealistic suggestions, do you have some money to spare?

What does your son enjoy?

Could you start doing something together such as park run on a Saturday morning? You will soon meet other people there and kids are really welcome.

If you are in a city, visit the art galleries? Go to the library for your own reading challenge? Check out the local adult ed for family Christmas craft activity days?

Ask him to choose a dish and then go out shopping to buy the ingredients and cook it together?

Go out, can't bear a wasted weekend, even before DCs, sometimes to the cinema, to visit friends/family, swimming, go for a walk/to the park even if it's cold just wrap up, we have some nice local stately homes and museums, the zoo. We live by the coast and didn't move here to stay inside. Every once in a while we'll have a lazy Saturday, might do some baking, read a book, watch a film etc.

Today we've been for a walk through the park and along the seafront, had a spot of lunch in a nice cafe. Heading back home now, as PILs are coming over

My DS used to enjoy baking with me still at that age or sometimes helping to cook tea like Bolognese. It's always good to get some fresh air as it makes you feel better if you are a bit down. If DS is with friends you could chill out, paint your nails, read a book or magazine. Sorry not much help. Hope you find something to do x

At that age, I'd take mine to NT places at every opportunity for a walk and change of scene
Films together, board games
Friends with children round for dinner
DH and I may alternate with each other seeing friends in pub

We do a lot of baking or getting everyone involved in making a bigger/batch cooking. We have DSS (14) this weekend so last night we have the PIL over for dinner, today him and DH are making a bird house in the garage, tomorrow my brother and his gf are coming over. Im on housework and baby (DD 14 weeks) duty. We'll probably have a film night when she goes to bed.

Ours are boring too and I feel guilty about it a lot but I personally feel that I need at least one day of just being at home per week. The kids don’t seem affected by this, they play away together and watch a lot of tv but seem happy enough.

Our day we are out is often not very exciting and just involves the food shop!

We do go cinema, rarely though, there's not always things on DS wants to watch. We go to the park, I sit on a bench while he goes and plays, we walk the dog daily too. The town we live in does have a museum, hasn't changed in the years since we've lived here, so not exciting to go to. I do suggest baking and he will sometimes want join in. I don't know, maybe I'm just fed up.

The other thing is that this phase won't last much longer - once he's at secondary he'll probably have his own stuff going on so think about it as precious time.

Even something like trying out different bus routes to get to new places might be a purposeful way to support him to independence.

And it could be an opportunity for you - is there a club nearby that you could join - tennis, archery, fencing ? - to make friends? Single mum here and know how lonely it can be. Some things are easier to get started with when you have a young person in tow.

Doing kids hobbies today. Tomorrow we are going to science museum but that's not a regular thing. Sometimes friends over, sometimes they have a party to go to, sometimes we visit family (not.local).

We do stuff though

Ps I am single mum too, two kids 10 and 4.

Food shopping.But currently wasting the day lounging in our dressing gowns.Its much easier to do nothing than cleaning.
Also kids need not to be entertained all the time
Having said that we had a TED day yesterday and went to see Robin Hood.

Make an inside den. He can have his tea in it. Or make a fort out of boxes.
Cook.
Make some Christmas cards
Make Christmas decorations
Tidy his room
Read

Go:
*for a walk
*to the cinema
*swimming
*to the library
*to see a castle
*to the beach
*to a museum
*bowling

At 10 he's old enough to meet his mates at the park, or play in the local wood, to wander round the shops or to generally entertain himself.

No idea why some of those are in bold.

I struggle too though my Ds is 4. We've been swimming, baked, a ton of tv but it's still 5 hours until bedtime

How about a trip to the library or to a local arts centre?

Parkrun (5k on Saturday; 2k for juniors on Sunday - followed by breakfast in a cafe) football training, football matches on a Sunday, squash training, visiting grandparents, swimming, trip to the park, bike rides, library. Not all every weekend, obviously! I actually long for time just to spend at home!

Can you afford tennis lessons? Where I am I pay £5 per hour with my very hunky tennis coach

When you a bit ready you could join a club which is a great way to meet people as you often play in groups and have events

I use weekends as my way to keep fit too with gym, runs, country walks and tennis

Also do coffee shop for reading my books, art centres, museums, trips to London (train fares can be cheaper at weekends)

In a very selfish way, i always find something to entertain DS,even if it's ps4 or TV, it's more me, I literally have nothing to do, they're boring and getting me down. I long for Mondays to get back to work

Mine do some clubs on Saturday mornings, then we might go round the charity shops, to the library or the park (they do physical clubs so mostly they would prefer to chill out at home). On Sundays sometimes we go out for breakfast, or to the cinema or the local park run. Oh and then there's homework...

Train to another nearby city for a hot choc and a walk around?