Baby name - is this a weird thing to do?

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Looking for some opinions please...

We are due DS in a few weeks and had settled on a name we both love and had thought we didn't know anyone with the same name etc.

We just realised that DH cousin has a child with the same name. For context the cousin and family live in a different country and the last time we saw them was about 7 years ago. Unlikely to see them again unless it was for a funeral etc.

We have never met the child and only ever seen pics on Facebook.

I think it's not weird for us to stick with the name but DH thinks it's a bit odd.

What do you think?

I wouldn't personally but can't really articulate why.

i wouldnt

Why would this be weird?

Unless the name is a completely original name made up by DH's cousin your child is probably going to come across lots of other people with the same name throughout his/her life.

And from the sound of it your child and cousin's child might never even meet.

Stick with the name you want. Your DH is being silly.

I really like a name that is the same as my cousins daughters brothers name (different dads) for this reason I wouldn't use it

Use the name you both want, the problem you have now is that your dh is having second thoughts about it, so you might end up in the position of only one of you wanting it.

I know 2 sisters with the same middle name, doesn't make a difference to them. There are children with the same name as their parents - my BIL and his son - it's fine and they see each other every day.

Living in different countries puts more of a separation between them. They aren't even direct cousins, they aren't very closely related, won't be a problem, it's just trying to convince dh of that.

If you were very close and saw each othet evrery week it might be a bit odd but ad you are not i think its fine, my sister named her oldest son rhe same name as one our coysins we are a large family and our cousin is 20 odd years younger than me and my sister anyway we see them once evry couple of years or so.its fine.

It’s fine :) my mums cousin named his daughter my name but 10 years before I came along and we used to see them quite frequently. It’s not a big deal.

Use the name. My cousin and his wife who we see only infrequently at family occasions (once a year) has a son with the same name as my oldest. She did say when he was born that she was really sorry but they really didn't like any other boy's names. It really isn't an issue and yours actually live abroad.

There are 4 cousins on my Mum's side with the same name and one of those cousins has a son named the same as one of my sons. It can get a bit confusing at weddings and funerals, but other than that no problem at all.

JellyBears

It’s fine smile my mums cousin named his daughter my name but 10 years before I came along and we used to see them quite frequently. It’s not a big deal

In this case, your mother named you the same name as her cousins child, not him naming his child your name, as she was born 10 years before you

I’ve said this before on here, but I have 3 sets of boy cousins where 2 brothers hsce the sane names. Ok, one set is actually second cousin, but meant that my GPs had 3 grandsons called x, 2 grandsons called y , a great nephew called x abd a great nephew called y. The grandsons all had the same surname too!

No it's fine I think.

I have the same name as my mums cousin, it’s never been an issue and we barely see her, weddings and funerals mainly.
I’d say use the name.

Not weird. I completely forgot I know (distantly) TWO kids with the same name as my son (different variations, think Johnny & Johnathan both called "John"). It doesn't phase me at all. Both kids with the same name are different ages, but also my the nephews of 2 of my friends..

I never knew it was seen as 'weird' lol. My father and brother share a name, my mums uncle and my other brother share their first name. My DH's first name is the same as his cousins and his first name is his own brothers middle name. I never thought any of this was weird. No one was named after a relative, people just liked the name so gave it to their child regardless of who else shares the name.

I don't see a problem with it. DH wants our first born son to be called a shortened down version of my brothers name. I have no issues with this

There are people on here who use the same name as their sister (so cousins would have the same name) and ask if they abu so no yanbu, what issues or confusion could it possibly cause? The fact you didn't even realise straight away speaks volumes!

Not weird. I think that's fine and I'm usually on the other side of the fence when it comes to using the same name as relatives children.

You don't live near them and rarely see them. They aren't close family. It's fine.

The children will be second cousins. This really isn't a big deal.

Not wired at all!

Weird

I think it's fine. It would be different if they were close family members who you see all the time.