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To ask what your worst date was.

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MonaLisaDoesntSmile · 24/11/2018 09:02

As I mentioned on another thread, I have been doing online dating for a while, and met some interesting individuals- so here are a few and I'm asking, what were some of your worst dates?

Specimen A- a mixed race guy who hated white people (and yes, I'm white- and yes, he could see it on the profile picture and description). We started off the date in a coffee shop, and when we got the bill of £5, he put 2,50 on the table and gave me a significant look. He spent most of the date making horrible blanket statements about white people. He then insisted we went bowling, for which we paid half-half again, and then he was so competitive and pissed off when I was winning for a bit it was really unpleasant. He ended the date with some lame card trick, and asked if I knew how he did it. I said no (and I didn't really care at this point) and he went- yeah, most white people don't understand this simple trick. Surprise I didn't text back when he asked when we would meet again.

Specimen B- a guy kept on saying strange things, that apparently were meant to be jokes. He then kept on making 'haha, well that went down well' comments in a really dry, sarcastic voice when I didn't laugh. We had a pizza for dinner and at the end the waitress asked if we had vouchers. The dude took a phone out and spent 10 minutes frantically looking for one.

Specimen C- a guy loving the sound of his own voice. He has not asked me a single question about myself over a course of a few dates (gave him a benefit of doubt as thought maybe he was nervous etc). Everything he did was exceptional according to him, like, he drank GREEN TEA, would you imagine. He nibbled on cocoa beans (not some normal snacks- these were clearly for peasants). He asked me if I knew that chocolate was made of cocoa beans. I said I did, and he seemed annoyed I was not in awe of his superior detective skills. "Well, most people don't know that". He insisted he was a great chef and invited me over for lunch he would cook himself. He spent 15 minutes explaining what a gaspacho was (which I knew what it was anyway, but he thought it was one of those recipes only people as intelligent as him would be familiar with). He also considered himself a great photographer, and to prove that he took out a laptop to show what were literally very ordinary holiday snaps, like 100 shots of the Eiffel Tower with minimal angle changes. I must have seen close to 1500 photos that day. Half of these contained his ex.

Specimen D- a guy got a bit drunk and started talking about his ex who was 'the most beautiful and smartest woman he has ever met'. I learned more about her than him that evening. What a great way to end the date...

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tierraJ · 24/11/2018 17:20

He was a doctor, I met him at a Mess Party, he'd seemed nice.

He turned up in a sports car & insisted on driving me to a bar in another town handily near his flat, & proceeded to get drunk, while telling me about all the nurses who allegedly fancied him.

Neither of us had a phone signal & he said well obviously he couldn't drive me home & we couldn't phone for a taxi therefore I'd have to walk to his flat & have sex with him (he'd shown zero signs of actually fancying me)!! This it turned out had been his plan all along.

I quickly asked the bar manager if I could use their landline, called a taxi & insisted that my date gave me the money to get home (about £30).

Another doctor told me I should pay him the money back but I refused as it served him right for not being an actual gentleman.

tierraJ · 24/11/2018 17:33

In fact there have been several bad dates with doctors....

There was the one who neglected to inform me he was married with 3 kids, the one who asked me round for coffee which we had -then gave an evil laugh (seriously) saying he'd locked the doors so I couldn't leave (luckily I escaped), the one who invited me to watch a dvd (turned out to be bad dr / nurse porn yuck, so I left), the one who invited me out only for another woman to turn up guess why.... just no.

Sorry to any decent male doctors reading this, I'm sure one or two of you may be trustworthy... maybe....

LanceStatersGold · 24/11/2018 17:39

Mine was one I didn’t know was a date. A friend asked me if I wanted to go to the cinema that night and I was free and said ok.

Whilst we were sitting waiting for the film to start he started talking about all the friends that weren’t mutual that I’d have to meet and how they were so pleased he was finally having some luck in the romance department. Apparently saying yea I’m free translated as yes! I’ll be your girlfriend.

We’d been friends for years at this point. Going out just us was not unusual. And he knew I was in the early stages of dating a mutual friend who was lovely. Completely messed that up as guy I was seeing didn’t want to hurt his friend.

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