Aibu to let my daughter dance today when my husband doesn't think she should

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12 year old dd hurt her back last week in pe- bruised at the top between shoulder blades and had pain all across. Was checked by doctors and referred to a and e to be on the safe side. A and e doctor saw her for few mins and said was fine and to rest for 10 days... no dance or pe etc.
For the 6/7 days following this she was still in pain and had to take painkillers. The last 3 days she's had no painkillers and said no pain. Today would be day 10 from seeing he a and e doctor.
The issue I have is she is part of a dance club who are performing at the local Christmas lights switch on today. She is desperate to do it and it's less than 5 minutes on stage. However I'm worried she could hurt herself and my dh is adament she shouldn't do it in case she hurts herself and should give herself another week off.

So..., do I let my heart win and let her do it because she's going to be heartbroken if not and she will probably be ok. Or do I do the sensible thing and say she can't and give her a few more days rest?

I was brought up with the 'it'll be reyt' mentality so situations like this appear harder than they should to decide what to do!!

You saw a junior dr in A+E for a few minutes. This was not a cutting edge sports medicine assessment.

Oh and my dh has interpreted what the doctor said as 10 days rest... but he thinks they gave this time thinking the pain would stop sooner.., because it stopped around 7 days he wants to give her another 7 days off from today

No way did the junior dr put that level of thought into coming up with the 10 days figure.

I’d let her do it.

She’s been pain free for the last few days.. if she’s moving about (twisting, bending, reaching) with no issue then a 5 min dance show will be fine.

The 10 days is a recommendation - recovery could be longer or shorter- just use common sense.

(I’m a physio)

@idonthaveaclue123. I've read it different that it is 10 days and end of recommended period. Its OP'd DH reading more into it
You're right though, OP could mention to dance teacher.
Insurance is only issue surely if OP would sue you for futther injury if occured which only a CF would consider ! (It sounds like there aren't any lifts or anything putting others in danger if her back pops again?). ED didn't refer DD on to outpatient appmt so it seems to me s/he thought it a minor recoverable injury after examination. If DD is not stiff or has any signs her back has not recovered when practising moves, then surely that's sign enough.

Camp do it here but just reminding a really good warm up and cool down before and after.

Totally agree with pp that enforcing rest unnecessarily could cause more issues than resuming normal activities.

I would let her dance: she's done everything right, and she's been fine for the past 3 days. She's 12 ... let her dance.

I'd let her since you have followed doctors advice about the 10 days and she's not in paid (and as you say it's only 5 mins). Just make sure she's warmed up.

Let her dance. He’s being completely over the top.

Thank you everyone!! Just needed reassurance I wasn't being daft letting her do it.

She's going to do it on the understanding she's careful and any problem she stops. And def agree with warming up and cooling down right.

Dh not very happy and yep if she does hurt herself he'll prob blame me but have weighed it all up and think it's the right choice and she should be ok.

Thank you everyone

I'd let her do it-

Agree with PP re stretching/warming up beforehand.

She is old enough to be involved in the decision

This reminds me of when I was about 11 and my Mum MADE me do a dance show the day after I fell off my horse!!
I was at the back and I doubt anyone would have noticed if I hadn’t done it. That’s over 30 years later and I still remember that it hurt
Anyway OP it’s been a while since your daughter hurt herself and given that she’s not in pain any more I would certainly let her do it.

Update.... she did it and was fine so all happy! Thank you everyone