I have been married to H for over 16 years and have 2 beautiful children. Only there is no love, respect, friendship, conversation or affection in this marriage. I have tried so hard to keep it together all these years for the sake of my children by lowering my expectations every time we hit a new hurdle: he couldn't support us financially so I worked to single handedly ran the house (nothing wrong with him he just couldn't be bothered), he'd argue over EVERYTHING so I stopped talking, he'd belittle my problems so I stopped sharing etc etc yet still he manages to find something to blow out of proportion and then turn everything around and accuse me of causing tensions. His versions are so deluded that I'm still gobsmacked! I'm the root cause of his troubles yet he drags me back every time I've tried to leave! I am so very sick of feeling so lonely that I actually do not know what to do, there is actually no talking to him at all as that would be another argument that I would have started.
Just wondering if anyone out there has been there or is going through this now and where do I go from here?